After putting our daughters into my car, I asked my separated wife some sensitive questions, in the most low key and calm way possible. What is the nature of your relationship now with the man with whom you had an EA? Is she seeing anyone? She said three interesting things.

1) She denied dating the man with whom she had an EA in the fall of 2008 or knowing the whereabouts of his apartment. However, she said she has hung out with him and their mutual friend.


2) She reiterated that we're done. "I don't want to be your wife anymore." "What business is it of yours what I do in my private life?" "Anyone I'm seeing is private."

3) Twenty minutes after I drove away, she called me to state that we would not talk about her private life again.

Are her comments those of a classic WW or someone emerging from the fog?

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Me, BS: 39
Her, WW: 32
Two young kids
Wife moved out: fall '09
First marriage for both; never lived together, have been in a relationship for a decade

Are her comments those of a classic WW or someone emerging from the fog?

Look for the thread about reverse fog babble.

The best way to avoid this is to stop talking about R. Have you read any of the books. Avoid these topics like the plague.

Hope,

I read "His Needs, Her Needs." I'm new to these parts, so I don't know all or many of the terms, such as R. Where is the guide?