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Anything remotely close to this to their BS after exposure? "Yeah, I was w/ OP last night, AND WE HAD THE BEST SEX EVER!!!" rotflmao

Anyone that CRUEL ON HERE?

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Well not exactly that, however on my d-day when i asked him where he had been, he told me where he had been and who had been with. I then asked him if he got a piece of a$$ too.

He told me "it was more than a piece of a$$"

I think ALL waywards are cruel while they are wayward.......

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Waywards seem to have a greater capacity for cruelty than normal people, IMO. But, going the sexual adequacy route is very extreme.

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Originally Posted by Dude007
Anything remotely close to this to their BS after exposure? "Yeah, I was w/ OP last night, AND WE HAD THE BEST SEX EVER!!!" rotflmao

Anyone that CRUEL ON HERE?

DUDE

After I found them both naked in bed together

"Lot's of people sleep naked together but don't have SF"

A few weeks later:

"I've never had better sex"

"OM is MUCH larger than you"

"I should have had SF with more men before you so I could see what I was missing (I was her first)"

puke

She is pure evil.


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Oh eff no....

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Justifiable

Homicide


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Originally Posted by PSUBIKER
Originally Posted by Dude007
Anything remotely close to this to their BS after exposure? "Yeah, I was w/ OP last night, AND WE HAD THE BEST SEX EVER!!!" rotflmao

Anyone that CRUEL ON HERE?

DUDE

After I found them both naked in bed together

"Lot's of people sleep naked together but don't have SF"

A few weeks later:

"I've never had better sex"

"OM is MUCH larger than you"

"I should have had SF with more men before you so I could see what I was missing (I was her first)"

puke

She is pure evil.

There's a special place in h-e-l-l for her. I know, cos I just called and made the reservations myself.


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Two more words: Run, fast. Drilled deep. (oh, four words).

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Originally Posted by Dude007
Anything remotely close to this to their BS after exposure? "Yeah, I was w/ OP last night, AND WE HAD THE BEST SEX EVER!!!" rotflmao

Anyone that CRUEL ON HERE?

DUDE
You should put into context, it was a wayward reacting to hardcore exposure. And not one minut later ws told the BS they did not mean it and was sorry.

Wawards, there all nuts twoxfour

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Originally Posted by PSUBIKER
She is pure evil.
I would agree with you 100%


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Originally Posted by Gack1
Originally Posted by Dude007
Anything remotely close to this to their BS after exposure? "Yeah, I was w/ OP last night, AND WE HAD THE BEST SEX EVER!!!" rotflmao

Anyone that CRUEL ON HERE?

DUDE
You should put into context, it was a wayward reacting to hardcore exposure. And not one minut later ws told the BS they did not mean it and was sorry.

Wawards, there all nuts twoxfour

Yikes, she did it after exposure. One would think she would be at her most contrite, at that point. Makes it even worse, IMO.

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Everything "good" out of a WS's mouth about OP and everything "bad" about the BS/M is a knife in the heart to a BS.


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Originally Posted by Zelmo
Yikes, she did it after exposure. One would think she would be at her most contrite, at that point. Makes it even worse, IMO.
Dont almost all waywards lash out at the time of exposure?


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Originally Posted by Gack1
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Yikes, she did it after exposure. One would think she would be at her most contrite, at that point. Makes it even worse, IMO.
Dont almost all waywards lash out at the time of exposure?

Like a palm tree in a hurricane, mi hermano...like a palm tree in a hurricane.


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Originally Posted by Zelmo
Two more words: Run, fast. Drilled deep. (oh, four words).

We lived at the coast at the time. He knew I know about chumming the waters...maybe he DIDN'T say it out of self-preservation?


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Originally Posted by Gack1
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Yikes, she did it after exposure. One would think she would be at her most contrite, at that point. Makes it even worse, IMO.
Dont almost all waywards lash out at the time of exposure?

One would certainly hope not, if they have an ounce of humanity and empathy. Most of the criminals I have represented were at their most contrite immediately after a consequence was imposed. After time, they rationalize and justify.

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if they have an ounce of humanity and empathy


From an active Waynerd?????????

Hon, doncha know that crack kills?


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I have done a fair amount of crack and I am okay( debatable, I know).

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I'm not talking about the rise in your jeans.



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Originally Posted by Zelmo
One would certainly hope not, if they have an ounce of humanity and empathy.
Are we reading the same message board?
Almost all the WS's I have read about on here lashed out at the point of exposure. Weather they later became FWS's or XWS's

People engaged in adultery do not think like normal humans, therefore they do not react like normal humans. Some times it is a temporary condition, sometimes it is not.


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EVERY wayward on the planet is CRUEL...By their very definition waywards are cruel...Um Hello, on what planet isn't the whole thing just one great big giant ball of CRUELTY?

I did not use those exact words...Actually I said WORSE, and YES I was most certainly the embodiment of EVIL when I was wayward - DUH, waywardism IS evil in action...The things I said would curl your toes and/or make you vomit...I know they do that to me if I ever revisit those horrible memories...

Let's not forget though that the WORDS aren't nearly as horrible as the actual ACTIONS...I find it odd that people are getting far more enraged by the WORDS of the wayward than they are by the ACTIONS...The WORDS aren't a deal breaker, if the ACTIONS aren't...

Telling that man that his wife is any different than any garden variety wayward is a disservice...Tell him to expose, tell him she will go ballistic when he does and then tell him she went "too ballistic" based upon WORDS? Ridiculous...

Words from a wayward are MEANINGLESS...Those are merely the blood spatter from the GUN SHOT...If one survives the gun shot, the blood spatter is just a matter of clean-up...

That marriage is still VERY recoverable...

Mrs. W


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