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LOL, someone like me? His dedicated wife? OMG!!!
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D-Day 10/29/09
Got the D papers 11/21/09 (Our 6th Anniversary)
Not giving up! Still on Plan A
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WOW! This is soooooo much fun!!! This is the most recent respone...
I WANT NO FURTHER CONTACT FROM YOU!!! I DID NOT ASK FOR THIS INFORMATION AND I DO NOT WANT ANY MORE OF IT!!! OW is a friend of mine and i wont let someone like you influence me about her or anyone else i choose to be friends with You know what? It doesn't matter what the responses are. You are exposing the affair far and wide, and that's what counts. You can't unring a bell. And this also is good for you, as you will know that you did your best. Good for you!
Preach the Gospel every day. When necessary, use words.
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What I got from her grandma...
no sure who you are but DO NOT contact me again! This is really unbelievably stupid and does show your intelligence or lack of!
Married 11/21/03
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WS 37
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H went to Iraq 1/7/09-10/5/09
D-Day 10/29/09
Got the D papers 11/21/09 (Our 6th Anniversary)
Not giving up! Still on Plan A
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These people must have been told SOME lies about you...
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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Yep, I feel like I'm in living hell and the one person who was supposed to be there for me; the one I was always there for when he was in Iraq, is now telling everyone we have been divorced a long time. Meh, Flick refered to me as his exwife on an auction website 4 weeks after d-day. We live in a country were you have to be legally seperated for 2 year before even applying for a D. Waywards dont have any new ideas, they just take 'em off the script
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Karma, yep! I already figured there were lots of lies,but for her gandma to say that; ouch!
Lil, where are you? My WH tried to get the 6 mo. waiting period waived.Are you in NZ or something?
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H went to Iraq 1/7/09-10/5/09
D-Day 10/29/09
Got the D papers 11/21/09 (Our 6th Anniversary)
Not giving up! Still on Plan A
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Got another response; of course negative...
Please do not send me any messages I do not care
Married 11/21/03
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H went to Iraq 1/7/09-10/5/09
D-Day 10/29/09
Got the D papers 11/21/09 (Our 6th Anniversary)
Not giving up! Still on Plan A
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I wrote back..
But if it was your husband you'd care.
Married 11/21/03
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H went to Iraq 1/7/09-10/5/09
D-Day 10/29/09
Got the D papers 11/21/09 (Our 6th Anniversary)
Not giving up! Still on Plan A
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Yah, NZ.
Don�t take the Reponses to heart. I got all sorts of rubbish; I remember others who got it. Its over and done soon enough and one day you will look back on this with some small amount of pride. Its the point whee YOU took control over something. Whether or not the exposed to people accept what you say is irrelevant really.
I was reading something a few days ago, which said it takes 10 repetitions of something to us before we believe it as fact. It was actually related to Christianity, but I thought on it and reckon it could work with exposure to. They'll all start chatting among themselves and eventually someone's going to wonder why if your lying, you have made such an enormous effort to get your POV out there.
And you have no idea of what is going on behind the scenes. After I exposed to Flicks workmates, he was refused entrance to a work do, and another workmate had a go at PQ who was allowed to attend. Can�t say it had an impact - then, but later on it did.
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Yeah, lies never last long. Wow, you are in NZ? What an amazing place!I wanna camp in your back yard,lol! JK!
I guess it just hurts when"old" folks accept the cheating. Geez, maybe when they're old and married and unhappy, they root for promiscuity? I can't get a handle on it.
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H went to Iraq 1/7/09-10/5/09
D-Day 10/29/09
Got the D papers 11/21/09 (Our 6th Anniversary)
Not giving up! Still on Plan A
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Hi EAM- Got your email reply 
johnstwin-
"I may not know what the future holds, but I know who holds my future." -Martin Luther
Remarried my FXH 25 years to the day of our first M. God is so good-and sometimes so unexpected!
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I havwe a large-ish back yeard... about 200 acres. Old folks have bought in to the fantasy hollywood star crossed soulmate vomit drivel the media presents, just like eveyone else. Heck before D-day, I would have thought alot of the stories I hear on here were romantic and all the BS's were just interferring with fate or something  *have to beat my head, cos I cant kick my *ss * The realiy is most of us had no idea how devestating it would be to be the left behind spouse, or just how horrible a WS is. Just keep speaking your truth, be the better person, and do what is right. Not because your responsible, but because it is right. Have you heard of a 'poem' called Desiderata?
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Yea Johnstwin! I can't wait to hear from you! That's awesome!
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D-Day 10/29/09
Got the D papers 11/21/09 (Our 6th Anniversary)
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Holy Moly, 200 acres? That is soo awesome! I'm very jealous.
No, I had no idea how devastating this would be. I considered leaving him this past summer, but woke up and poured me whole heart into it. I feel stupid for doing it now b/c I was strong then (and cold).
No, I haven't heard of the poem, but I love poetry. My fav is Robert Frost "Stopping by Woods on a Snowy Evening"...
Stopping By Woods on a Snowy Evening
Whose woods these are I think I know.
His house is in the village though;
He will not see me stopping here
To watch his woods fill up with snow.
My little horse must think it queer
To stop without a farmhouse near
Between the woods and frozen lake
The darkest evening of the year.
He gives his harness bells a shake
To ask if there is some mistake.
The only other sound's the sweep
Of easy wind and downy flake.
The woods are lovely, dark and deep.
But I have promises to keep,
And miles to go before I sleep,
And miles to go before I sleep.
Married 11/21/03
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D-Day 10/29/09
Got the D papers 11/21/09 (Our 6th Anniversary)
Not giving up! Still on Plan A
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BTW, Lil, I'm lol on your emoticon; head banger! Too funny!
Married 11/21/03
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D-Day 10/29/09
Got the D papers 11/21/09 (Our 6th Anniversary)
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Funny that, I considered leaving Flick up until just before the A. It was googling stats on D and happiness that made me decide to stay. Go figure. Anyway, this helped a lot during all those icky days, along with some other stuff: desiderata - by max ehrmann
Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant, they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love, for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is perennial as the grass.
Take kindly to the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.
Max Ehrmann c.1920
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That is my favorite poem. I was surprised in reading along that I still know it by heart. I have been following your journey and you are in my prayers.
God's Blessings,
Say
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FWH 54
4 kids and 4 grandbabies between us
In recovery since D-day, May 28,2007
FWH never onboard the MB boat but still clinging to the side.
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That is so beautiful! And it really fits. I'm speechless; i really can't believe I haven't heard it before!v Thank you!
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D-Day 10/29/09
Got the D papers 11/21/09 (Our 6th Anniversary)
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I always liked the "Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit." that bit just screamed out wayward to me. Today it screams out the exposed
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Yeah, it's nearly the dictionary definition for wayward/exposed. That was amazing! Thank you so much for sharing it.
Married 11/21/03
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D-Day 10/29/09
Got the D papers 11/21/09 (Our 6th Anniversary)
Not giving up! Still on Plan A
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