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She is not doing it willingly... we already knew this.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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She is not doing it willingly... we already knew this. 
An attitude adjustment is all it takes.
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This is causing me to feel like I have to have sex or else, Or else what? He feals bad? Crys? Asks her why he is not as worthy as her affair partner? Gets emotional and blames her affair? Or else what exactly???? which builds up resentment and takes away from our sex lives No, what takes away from there sex lives is her refusing sex!
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Abandoned Feb 17th 08, D-Day Aprl 27th 08.
Returned home Jul 7th, OC born 12/30/08
The FOG is clear, and we are in recovery.
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Seriously you always hahave sex when your spouse wants it? I can't imagine.
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lokil, Forced is wrong.
Now put yourself in this BH's shoes.
This BH imagines, or it was real that his WW never told the OM no. He imagines, or it was real that his WW did things with the OM that she has not, won't do with him.
This BH has not handled recovery well. His WW has not either. So instead of continuing to bumble along they should counsel with the Harley's or one that use's pro marriagebuilders techniques.
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Seriously you always hahave sex when your spouse wants it? I can't imagine.
I adore and cherish my H and our vows.
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Since the OP is long gone and gave very little details in the first place, I think it's next to impossible to figure out what she meant by "I have to have sex or else." Or else what? Who knows, and unless she comes back to clarify that statement, which I seriously doubt she will do, debating it further seems kind of pointless.
Me: BS/FWW: 48
BS/WH: 50
DS: 30, 27, 25
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OC: 10
BH and I are raising my OC together.
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Seriously you always hahave sex when your spouse wants it? I can't imagine. As long as it did not cause me severe pain, and I was able to perform, yes I would weather I actually wanted to or not. If you are willing to try, you usually find it enjoyable even if you did not innitialy want it.
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