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#2327727 02/22/10 08:50 PM
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May I have this piece of cyber space to gripe for a minute?

Regarding my wayward sister...I get that she is probably having a hard time with her affair and divorce and all that goes with it. I know it must be hard giving up the large income her BH made and trying to suck him dry for alimony. It must be hard to have lost many friends since she was shlupping a neighbor's husband. And I know it is hard waking up next to some scum sucking OM and thinking "I gave up everything for this cheating POS?"

But... and I hate to play this card...but I have cancer! She has completely dismissed me like old junk mail. We were like best friends forever. I have always watched her kids, we talked almost every day. We were a nice extended family. I guess she thinks she is getting "credit" since she does ask my Mom how I am doing.

I feel like her problems are all of her own making and mine were just bad luck. I want more consideration that being discarded like she has done.

I recall how my exWH discarded me, didn't care about what seemed like big deals to me at the time. But now I am dealing with stage 3 cancer and that is a big deal. And another wayward has tossed me aside since I don't condone her affair.

%#$@&* , there, I feel better.

Thanks



Me-41 BS (FWS)
DH-41 WS (FBS)
2DD's- 10 and 12
Married 15 years
Separated for 2 years after my A
Reconciled for 1 year before his A
D-day for his A 8/23/05
WH moved out 9/16/05
Divorce final 1/23/07
Affair ended or month or so later
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That's what we're here for laugh


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DSx2: 10,12
DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09
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Praying for walls and doors. Thanx MM

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Scotland #2327733 02/22/10 09:03 PM
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((((Jean))))) You were totally intitled to that rant!

God's Blessings,

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Me, BW-57
FWH 54
4 kids and 4 grandbabies between us
In recovery since D-day, May 28,2007
FWH never onboard the MB boat but still clinging to the side.
One day at a time by God's grace.
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Not as a criticism, but only for future reference...


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Nice rant, Jeanie.


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LOL Pepperband! Thanks!


Me-41 BS (FWS)
DH-41 WS (FBS)
2DD's- 10 and 12
Married 15 years
Separated for 2 years after my A
Reconciled for 1 year before his A
D-day for his A 8/23/05
WH moved out 9/16/05
Divorce final 1/23/07
Affair ended or month or so later
My Story
Jean36 #2327745 02/22/10 09:32 PM
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((((((Jean)))))))


Married 9 yrs.
DC 7 & 2
DH EA 4/08-01/10
Dday #1 05/08
False recovery b4 I knew about MB 07/08
Dday #2 01/10
NC 01/10

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Rant away!


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The ? that made recovery possible: "Which lovebuster do I do the most that hurts the worst"?

The statement that signaled my personal recovery and the turning point in our marriage recovery: "I don't need to be married that badly!"

If you're interested in saving your relationship, you'll work on it when it's convenient. If you're committed, you'll accept no excuses.

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