As I explained before, beginning last September, my wife of 8 yrs had an affair with a 21 year old kid. I am 35, she is 32. The kid is the son of what began as a client of hers, we own a small business. What I didn�t tell was some of the back story. In August of last year I became involved in a 3.2 million dollar lawsuit as the plaintiff. This caused us to received media attention from all over the world. My wife and I were featured on CNN, Fox News, and Inside Edition. We were not prepared for all of the attention; we thought we may get a blip on the local stations, but nothing like what we received. This basically stunned and further strained an already emotionally tapped relationship, and this is when the affair began.

Well, we found out that the affair was planned and masterminded by the mother of the 21 year old kid, because of my wealth and anticipated wealth. This was suspected by me and other early on, but as the affair went on it became obvious and was eventually disclosed by the Mothers husband, the kids step dad to a mutual friend. This mother and son duo really got into my wife�s head with really vicious head games, my wife finally disclosed it all to me last night. The manipulation was incredible on a person who already was mentally beaten up. We also found out the kid maintained an abusive relationship with a 20 year old gf the entire time. The mom kept control of both girls when things would get rocky, telling them they were members of the family etc. They both found out about the other one last week and talked extensively yesterday. Anyhow, the mom and son have threatened to go to the media and expose the affair, threatened to call my employer etc. I fear nothing from them; my wife is still a bit in the fog, although she is coming out of it.

I told my wife I love her and I am here for her, but am careful not to be just a I told you so pushover. The affair broke off a couple weeks ago, this was suspected but not the cause of that. Not sure how to proceed, any advice appreciated.

I hope that as she comes out of the fog, she will begin to take ownership of the A. Pinning it on OM's mother (getting into her head) is a stretch. Fact is, she let it get into her head.

Yeah, I'm sorry, but the kid's mother does not have the capability to open your wife's legs.

She sounds like a real nutter, that mom, though. What does she think exposing your wife's affair to the media and your employer will accomplish, other than making you out to be a saint?

She has already done that. She has acknowledged she made the mistake of her life.

The mom and son clearly are bullies who operate on fear and intimidation. The kid is a nut case, threatining little girls with violence and all the mental games that go along with that. The mom plays along as well. Funny, the mom started threatening me a couple months ago, I phoned them both up and told them to eff off, I wasnt some punk kid like they were used to dealing with. They both backed off immed.