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I agree that would be a great idea to tell POSOW'S BH about this site and Dr H. What if he doesn't want to save his M? Then she will still have to deal with POSOW. I think that communicating with her at all is a bad idea.
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Tell her don't cry, heres a cookie (pepperband??)
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
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I agree with everyone. That's what she gets. In the end, she is such a loser. She has no one to keep her warm at night. I don't think her husband is gonna give her a second chance. They were already on bad terms. Now she's begging him and crying, like honestly, do I care about her tears. NOPE, she could care less about mine. I don't trust her at all. If she could have saw the smile on my face as she was crying. I did say to her, told you so. I knew one day she was going to be hurting as much as she hurt me. Again, she doesn't have my husband and she doesn't have her's either. Karma, karma, karma.
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Tell her she would be perfect for the Springer show.
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I did say to her, told you so. What was her response?
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Since you have her BH's contact info, you might consider referring him to Dr. H's books and letting him know it's possible to recover his M.
As good as it feels that she's bawling, the fact still remains. A hoe trying desperately to restore her own M and become an ex-hoe is going to have a lot less time to come looking for your WH.
An OW who is left with no one often turns their energies to stalking. Trust me on this. Very, very true. Give her no reason to "seek revenge" on YOU. (Yeah I know entitled WS thinking)
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Your best-case scenario is for the OW to repent, determine to save her M, and over time become like any of the wonderful FWW's on here.
Her restoration as a decent human being is a great safeguard to your M, since she will have learned her own weaknesses and become watchful against them.
It may not have the delicious, vengeful satisfaction of her sobbing and ruined, but is much safer in the long run.
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
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I don't get it.
Did you guys send a NC letter?
If so, why are you talking to OW?
If not, why not send one today?
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To answer some of your questions.
When I said "I told you so", she said "yes I deserved that". That's her favorite phrase. Yes we sent a NC letter, but she still has our home number. She can not call our cell #'s because she's blocked from calling us.
I think she was so upset this particular day until she didn't know what else to do. As for her stalking us, she knows better. Considering who we are, she'll never stalk us. To easy to get her in trouble for that. I've already told her that I will call the cops on her.
Honestly, I'm not going to waste my time worrying about her repenting and getting her marriage back on track. Her marriage is her problem and I really can care less. As for her trying to come back at my husband. I have become a great detective through this whole process. Besides, I think he finally gets it, we found out alot of things about her after the fact. Now he sees how dumb he really was for even getting involved with her and I rub it in his face every now and then, sorry but I do.
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Haven't heard from her. I must admit, I do wonder if her husband took her back or has moved back home. I still want her to suffer and that's not right.
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26 years, don't worry about OW...work on the M.
OW is nothing, OW is not worth your thoughts. You have a long road ahead of you and time to focus on that.
I wish I could be like Neak and "turn the other cheek" but I understand how you feel.
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09
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Be Like Neak
Turn the other cheek My goodness Hope - this writer thing Neak has going on is rubbing off. Now if you can do the three-five-three syllable thing, you can make it into a haiku! Just one more phrase - 3 syllables!
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Be Like Neak
Turn the other cheek My goodness Hope - this writer thing Neak has going on is rubbing off. Now if you can do the three-five-three syllable thing, you can make it into a haiku! Just one more phrase - 3 syllables! "Be like Neak Turn the other cheek Shun that freak"  Well...I tried!  
"Your actions are so loud that I can't hear a word you're saying!"
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Too short to be haiku...maybe just haik. Aspire to be Neak
Turn away the other cheek
Avoid evil freakAnd with that bit of self-serving Japanese poetry, I'd better head off to sleep before I get any more bright ideas.
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Neak says turn cheek
But hope says kick it
OW falls down
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09
Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."
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Yes I know I shouldn't waste my time even giving her a 2nd thought. Sometimes I just want her and my H to pay. Is that wrong? Even though I don't want the A to come out to the world, sometimes I do want it to cause him more embarassment and even more pain. I'd like for them both to experience the pain that I have. I don't feel they have paid enough. I'm always tempted to call the OW just to find out if she is miserable.
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