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I have been married 13 years and found out 12 weeks ago that for the last 9 years my husband has been seeing prostitutes about once a month. I had no idea, none at all. He is getting counseling and says he will never do this again. I made him move out the day I found out about one prostitute. (He told me at first she was the only one, I guess because she was the only one I had found out about at the time.) It was a few weeks later that I found out how long it had been going on. I love him but how can I ever forget or get past all of this? Has anyone been through anything like this?
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I am so sorry for your pain. Try not to make any decisions right now. Firstly get yourself to the doc for STD testing. Read everything here and listen to advice given.
Goodluck
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The best is yet to come, with or without your WS
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Gailw,
I am so sorry for you. You have come to the right place. There are many people here that can give you the advice you seek. I came here needing help and got it in abundance! Please know you are not alone and the people that can help will respond back soon I am sure.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Do you have children? And how old are you and your wayward husband?
Plan D June 08
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The best is yet to come, with or without your WS
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I am 51 and my husband is 52. This was a second marriage for both us. I have two sons, my oldest is 19 and being deployed to Afghanistan next month and my youngest is a senior in highschool. I was tested to HIV and he was tested for all STD's and somehow we escaped that. I did find out 4 weeks ago that he was arrested in 2002 for trying to pick up a street walker that was a police officer. Unforunatly they did an arrest and release so he only had to pay a fine! So I never even knew about it.
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How long have you been married?
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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Yes.
A very similar story.
Sad so Sad
another thread
Greenmile's first thread (he was still lying to one and all)
Greenmile - home from the hospital
The BW started out posting as SadSoSad.
It turns out her WH (poster "GreenMile")
had been seeing prostitutes for 26 years.
Later, she changed her name to MadSoMad.
After that, she went by the name, DancesWithGoats (you had to be there to understand).
They went to a MB weekend ... and no longer post on the public board (on private board)
So ........ you are not the first "customer" who has had a spouse who has cheated a loooooooong time with hookers.
Sorry you need to be here.
Keep reading/posting/learning.
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Last edited by Revera; 03/11/10 10:27 PM. Reason: TOS disrespectful
Plan D June 08
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Married 13/1/09
The best is yet to come, with or without your WS
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I was tested to HIV and he was tested for all STD's and somehow we escaped that. Thank God for that! Well having no kids together and the fact that they are older is a blessing if you do decide to divorce.
Plan D June 08
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Married 13/1/09
The best is yet to come, with or without your WS
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Is there anyway I can write to the poster you mentioned above? I was wondering if they lived together while they tried to work things out, how long it took, etc.
Thanks
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Read her threads and post to her, Gail. Peperband linked to Sadsosads and her H Greenmile a few posts above. I know you will find them helpful. After reading, ask her to e-mail you.
Gods Blessings,
Say
Me, BW-57
FWH 54
4 kids and 4 grandbabies between us
In recovery since D-day, May 28,2007
FWH never onboard the MB boat but still clinging to the side.
One day at a time by God's grace.
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