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He said over and over again it's what he needs, but he's going to put me first, and not ask again.
At no point do I believe he's sincere. He wants me to contact her ( which I won't), and I know he's hoping I will.
He just cannot accept that he lied to her as much if not more than he lied to me. It's crazy> he wants me to correct how she sees him.
Put GPS on his car.
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I just asked him about pasta. He is compltely confused. Me likey. 
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I really did kill their affair, and I made it so the no contact was insanely tight. I never expected that. That was a bonus. A big huge bonus!
I still can't believe he's so angry at me. At me. For cripe's sake. LOL!
Thanks for all the support along the way.
I wish you all well. I'm outta here.
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YOU killed their affair !!!!!!
Plan A was a KILLER !
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I totally think he'll violate it. Totally. I'll put the GPS on.
I think her family is closing in around her and protecting her, and I think he'll get caught in his quest to make himself not be a liar to her.
Thanks for all the support along the way.
I wish you all well. I'm outta here.
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YOU killed their affair !!!!!!
Plan A was a KILLER !
It really was! Yay me!
Thanks for all the support along the way.
I wish you all well. I'm outta here.
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I still can't believe he's so angry at me. At me. For cripe's sake. LOL!
It would be worrisome if he acted with indifference.
If he is angry at you, he will maintain contact.
(obviously ... how many phone call today, so far?)
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Oh! And at one point, he said " Why did you go so public? Why didn't you just come to me- you know I would have chosen you!"
Um, yeah. Right.
Thanks for all the support along the way.
I wish you all well. I'm outta here.
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Thanks for all the support along the way.
I wish you all well. I'm outta here.
Peace.
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I totally think he'll violate it. Totally. I'll put the GPS on.
I think her family is closing in around her and protecting her, and I think he'll get caught in his quest to make himself not be a liar to her.
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See how his anger works in your favor?
Keep smiling.
This is all going the way it is supposed to.
Your turn for anger is a little later on.
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Oh! And at one point, he said " Why did you go so public? Why didn't you just come to me- you know I would have chosen you!"
Um, yeah. Right.
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" Why did you go so public? Why didn't you just come to me- you know I would have chosen you!" Man! Was that all I had to do? It would have been so much simpler! But Nooooooo...I did exposure, Plan A, Plan B, and Plan D. What was I thinking? How come we never suggest this to betrayed spouses around here? "Sorry you are here. All you need to do is go to your wayward spouse and they will chose you. This should all be over in a few minutes and your marriage will be recovered."
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Testosterone boys! Testosterone! It ain’t just for nose, ear and back hair anymore!
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Okay, so even though he is calling me to tell me how I don't measure up, that's actually a good thing. So him telling me I suck, interspersed with I'm so awesome for not leaving him< is a good thing.
What the heck happened to my life? how'd I get here? I am very upset that Garmin led me astray and didn't warn me! Geesh!!!! LOL!
Thanks for all the support along the way.
I wish you all well. I'm outta here.
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" Why did you go so public? Why didn't you just come to me- you know I would have chosen you!" Man! Was that all I had to do? It would have been so much simpler! But Nooooooo...I did exposure, Plan A, Plan B, and Plan D. What was I thinking? How come we never suggest this to betrayed spouses around here? "Sorry your here. All you need to do is go to your wayward spouse and they will chose you. This should all be over in a few minutes and your marriage will be recovered." I know, right? The simplicity of it astounds me!
Thanks for all the support along the way.
I wish you all well. I'm outta here.
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hahahaha
Oh Ridic! You did so well! And what I admire even more is your ability to see right through his crap! That is a Superpower, you know!
This is EXACTLY how its supposed to work.
He is eventually going to be really embarassed by what he has asked of you. So embarassed, in fact, that he will probably forget that he has done it, and deny it entirely.
You really should keep a journal of the ridiculous things he is saying to you!
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Okay, so even though he is calling me to tell me how I don't measure up, that's actually a good thing. So him telling me I suck, interspersed with I'm so awesome for not leaving him< is a good thing.
What the heck happened to my life? how'd I get here? I am very upset that Garmin led me astray and didn't warn me! Geesh!!!! LOL!
But, welcome to
"Addict Brain Chemistry 101"This is why H needs those anti-Ds.
His brain chemistry is running amok.
"I need to call OW"
"You need to call OW for me."
"You suck."
"OW is Mother Theresa."
Hence, GPS his car.
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He just texted me that he's having a bad moment. I answered "Want a backrub?"
He said "No?Thanks?"
LOL!
I have a private journal, and I am writing down a lot. It's what keeps me from joining the crazycakes club!
Thanks for all the support along the way.
I wish you all well. I'm outta here.
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I am very frustrated that the anti d's are a week away. Ugh.
I've not dealt with an addict, but I am OCD, so I definitely understand compulsions.
But because I'm not as nuts as he is, all I had to do to get the anti anxiety meds onboard was call my doc, and they were in my hands two hours later.
Him? Notsomuch.
Thanks for all the support along the way.
I wish you all well. I'm outta here.
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He just texted me that he's having a bad moment. I answered "Want a backrub?"
He said "No?Thanks?"
LOL!
I have a private journal, and I am writing down a lot. It's what keeps me from joining the crazycakes club!
Can he take a medical leave of absence, if it becomes necessary?
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