Is there such a prepaid phone card that can tell me what phone calls were made on it?

Trying to figure out WHAT I want to prove there is no contact.

He can still call by the free phones there

As well as he could have gave her his mailing address.

So if I understand:


If BJ is husband, that means they were talking or communicating in some form. Sounds like they were on the phone at the time of the post. So you now own him, it looks like. So much depends on command's attitude if it ever gets that far. So much depends on what Chaplain can do. But with the things you do control, great job!

Thanks for dropping a post to Pregandlost. It was perfect.

Larry

I agree with Larry. I misunderstood the FB messages initially.

I also agree about your excellent post to Pregandlost.

I think me finding that Post was a fluke. There is NO other way I can see if there is contact...she hasn't posted on her cousin's page in the previous month and it just so happened she mentioned my H.

Sooo other than this...I don't know what else.

what else should I ask for
email address passwords
be able to view his bank account
if i can find a phone card that I can monitor his phone calls (which is stupid he can totally get around that too because of his free calls he's been making lately.)

Find out from JAG if it is legal for him to hide his money from you. Until you have more leverage I dunno how you can ask for email passwords, etc. He can always do a yahoo account anyway.

I forget, did you ever find her husband or is she married?

Larry

My WH won't tell me when I asked *(of course not)

haven't heard back from her Mom. obviously did not make a difference did it?

She OBVIOUSLY was because in her Windows Live profile she says she is married, her husband is going to deploy in January but that was 4 years ago. I know it is old because she put her kids ages (18 months for her daughter) and guess what thats the same daughter that was in my son's class.

Trying to figure out my script for when he calls....what do I say?

I have no idea what you can say. I will leave that up to those who are better at what to say.

BUT, let me carry on in another vein. You need to find out about OW husband real bad. You know her last name and where she lives? Can you ask about daughter at school in some innocent fashion? Do you know her full name? Her mom was probably gas lighted.

Get sneaky.

Preg is still in her pity party. Wish she would start working.

Larry

I've been trying believe me..

I know his first name - what my WH gave me awhile back but who knows if it's true.

He's not found in her FB.

Chaplain couldn't find him in WH's brigrade

I used Spokeo (found out about it today) and didn't find anything new on her...

(found very accurate information on myself though and my sister in law...I am worried I should request to take off my information)

Oh Daughter is no longer in same class as my son, they moved. THank goodness.

I put 2 & 2 together it was the same woman when my son told me she moved away too..

What was daughter's full name. ASK, say your son liked her. Say he wanted to send her a valentine's day card but didn't know her last name. Be sneaky. Get son to ask if you can program him to leave you out of it. Erk, "Mom wanted to know."

Larry

Larry

no it's too hard. WH used to tell my son all the time to invite little girl's mome to come over for a playdate. I can see her last name on the school class picture.

Okay, call me dense. Does that mean you have a first name and a last name for mom or dad?

Larry

It means mom and daughter have same last name...


could be that WH gave me another first name but can't find the guy.

Do you know where mom lives? Just trying to help you piece together the stuff. There are birth records. Probably birth for daughter was in mom's town. Maybe.

Larry

I can keep trying but it's most likely I will need a PI.

I'm guessing she is most likely seperated or divorced.

Ok, you don't want to say much online. I got it. Well, you know how to reach me if you think I might be of help. Good night.

Larry

Sorry Larry....had best friend on phone but she finally made me get off with her.

I dont know what else I can do here other than what I have written down.

I want to think of what to say in our 20 minute phone call when he calls me most likely tomorrow night but my mind's jumbled up. I want to see what the chaplain says. I want to go to JAG and just start that process.

Starting to make a list of stuff I could sell if I have to move out. I can request to be moved on base so rent/utilities I don't have to worry about....

Thanks for staying up and trying to help...I think going to her family is a dead end.

Stayed up all night and found a lot.....

got back into his bank account information (that was easy)
got into his gmail account
got into his facebook account
(the one that's been deleted but i reactived)

Printed everything out from the first contact to last.

This A really went fast....went to ILY in less than 2 weeks.

Found out the OW H name

Turns out OW and H are seperated - still married. Apparently he got in trouble for dating even though he's married. my H was telling her that nothing will happen if there was nothing sexual.

Turns out she is going to Basic Training for Army.

Got her phone number (probably changed since she no longer lives here) 2 email addressses.

I have enough proof that this was an affair - that he persued.

I set it up so that his any email address sent to his gmail address is going to be sent to me (email forwarding)

So far no contact in that way since Feb so he could be using another account.

Will continue to dig but now I have to rework my to do list..

Ok it's official I've been up all night. About to wake up my kiddos to take them to school.

Found another email address of his but I know he gave her the gmail one and his army one.

reading their A makes me sick to my stomach