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When I click on the programs you can buy here....it shows the cover of the LB book....also has workbooks pictured with it and cd's....well that cover looks like the book I found online dated revised edition 2008...so I guess I'll go with that one.
I found the best deal over at ebay...$3.00 + $3.99 s/h....tree of life bookstore...top seller...should be here next week!
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I have been reading the forum since 2004 but haven't posted for a long time.
I bought a used copy 2008 on eBay.
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Getting excited about this discussion - read the first chapter online while I'm waiting for my book to come in. Sool- you thinking we'll discuss the topics at the end of the chapters - of will it be more free-flow, sharing things that particularly struck us or a mix of both? I'm starting some notes/ thoughts and just wondering how I should focus them. 
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I want to join. Its been forever since I've been here.
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Add me in Soolee... I have read it before... but always in a vacuum.
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but I'm glad to see most of you are in better shape than us where that figure can be $40 or even $100! Wow! Believe me how much you make really doesn't matter. Trust me on this one... I might not have to worry about electricity and mortgage... but $600 purses can put a dent in your wallet just the same. POJA only works when respect is there to begin with.
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Ah well, the website won't allow me to edit the original roster post anymore, but you two are in, definitely. Anyone is who wants to be!
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I think that's 18 people! Wow!!
Vibrissa - I think a little of both as long as we are not jumping ahead and talking about things no one has read about yet.
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Cantfigureitout, You posted:
�Believe me how much you make really doesn't matter. Trust me on this one... I might not have to worry about electricity and mortgage... but $600 purses can put a dent in your wallet just the same. POJA only works when respect is there to begin with.�
POJA only works when respect is there to begin with.
This needs to be strongly emphasized because it is so important.
Thanks for stating this (should be obvious, but usually never is) observation.
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got my book and started reading!
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Finished Chapter 1 from online - come on mail system!! Chompin at the bit here! lol!
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So, which book are we using?
I purchased and read Love Busters in 2000, 4th printing, 2nd edition printed Feb 2000. My wife purchased the Marriage Builders home program and included with the program was a copy of Love Busters 3rd printing, printed Feb 2009. The edition version is not listed, so I assume it is the first of a revised edition.
I have not found any significant differences yet, but will keep looking and comparing.
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Finished Chapter 1 from online - come on mail system!! Chompin at the bit here! lol! 
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Is the new edition of "Love Busters"
different than earlier editions?
The first edition of Love Busters appeared in 1992 as the sequel to His Needs, Her Needs. Then, I wrote the second edition in 1997 to address some of the problems readers were having with the application of material in the first edition. Now, in 2002, I have completely rewritten and greatly expanded the size of the book to make it a more effective tool in teaching a couple to stop hurting each other. To date, itﾒs the longest book Iﾒve written.
The most important changes from earlier editions are as follows:
1. There is a new introduction that emphasizes the importance of knowing when your behavior adversely affects your spouse, and putting a stop to it. Those I counsel complain about how their spouse is hurting them, but they seem totally unaware of how they are hurting their spouse.
2. I have placed a greater emphasis on overcoming abuse and control in marriage. They should never be tolerated under any circumstances, and I underscore that fact. The first three Love Busters (demands, disrespect and anger) have been rearranged from the way they were presented in earlier editions so that I could show how they create an escalation of abuse and control.
3. The category, Annoying Behavior, found in earlier editions has been divided into two separate categories, Annoying Habits and Independent Behavior. So now there are six Love Busters instead of five.
4. Two chapters are added, ﾓRestoring Love to Your Marriage after Drug or Alcohol Addiction,ﾔ and ﾓRestoring Love to Your Marriage after Infidelity.ﾔ These two Love Busters are so destructive that many donﾒt feel itﾒs possible to restore marriage after the damage they do. But I have proven that once these Love Busters are eliminated, even these marriages can thrive.
5. There are break-outs throughout the book to help emphasize important points and Key Principles listed at the end of each chapter.
6. I have written questions for you and your spouse to consider together after you read each chapter. These questions are designed to help you put into motion a plan to eliminate the Love Busters that exist in your marriage.
I make revisions on new printings of Love Busters based on letters I receive from readers. And I assure you, this latest edition will not be the last revision. So if there is something you would like to see changed, be sure to send us your feedback. You may find that the next printing accommodates your concern.
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Thank you Soolee for this information. I assume that any printing after 2002 is the latest edition.
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I think so. If anyone is using the older version, we can certainly work as a group to try and fill them in during discussion.
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Ooh ooh, I want in! I don't think I have a copy... I had a copy of either LB or HNHN but I gave it to my SIL. I'll look around and if I can't find a copy of LB at home, I'll order one. Meanwhile I'll read the part that's available online.
me - 47  H - 39  married 2001 DS 8a  DS 8b :crosseyedcrazy: (Why is DS7b now a blockhead???) (Ack! Now he's not even a blockhead, just a word! That's no fun!)
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I read the first part yesterday. Mine was printed in 2008 and says revised edition.
I've read this book twice before but it still has me page turning.
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This may be a slight TJ but since we're talking about the Harley books....
I have a good friend that is getting married this fall. She and her fiancee have a 2 year old and have been living together for several years. He also has another child from an ex-girlfriend that they have visitation of. I REALLY want them to get a Harley book for their wedding present. I don't think they realize just what they're up against - but I don't want to come off as preachy or judgmental. I have only read HNHN for Parents, and the web materials.
I was thinking Fall in Love, Stay in Love or maybe Buyers, Renters & Freeloaders... but do others have a different recommendation?
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I read the first chapter that is online. Lots of things there in my M.
I ordered the book and workbook, both used.
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