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No ammount of surgery is going to make your WH faithful to you. accept.that.now. before you drive yourself crazy. Do I understand it correctly when you said that he does not agree with the tummy tuck because he is afraid that the surgery scar will make your stomach uglier??? than it is now?  Wow. There are so many layers to this, it is beyond me to decipher. I wish you love and peace with your little one, enjoy them-- they become bratty teenagers in about 12 years! Please keep up posted.
Me; W 46
Him; H 46
2 girls
DD19
DD16
Dated/Married total 28 years.
..I am learning and working on myself.
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I think he *likes* the PB Bunny looking stretch mark and doesn't want it messed with.
Did I read that right?
Me 31
Him 26
Married 11/30/04
DD11
DD8
DS3
In a big ol mess...
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My DS is eight goin on nine in about a month and he is just the greatest little person...and I am enjoying as much as I can right now, because he loves spending time with me....I am not looking forward to the bratty teenage years when he wants nothing to do with me. UGGGHHH...
BW me-41 WH -39 DS - 9 married 12 Yrs together(?) 18 yrs when A discovered DDay aug 2007 found MB dec 2007 Moved out april 2008 still seeing OW Plan B Okay I fixed the ages, it was looking screwy. 
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Yeah he likes the bunny...no actually he loves the bunny. And he agreed to the breast surgery as soon as we can afford it because it will make me feel better. I know it wont make him be faithful, nothining stop him from doing it if thats what he wants. I still feel like the better your EN's are met the easier it is to keep those EP's in place though. Just like with conversation, I think its easier not to talk to someone else if your H is meeting that need than if he isnt. If he isnt then you are desperate for someone to talk to and you can too easily find yourself making excuses of why its ok to let someone else do it. Maybe its the wrong way to look at it but thats how I feel, and he wants me to feel safe so he is on board with it.
We lived in two different countries for two years. Thank you US Army.
Me-24 FWW/BW
DH-27 FWH/BH
DS-6 years DD- 1 year
Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves. ~Henry David Thoreau
Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death. ~Anaïs Nin
If you aren't sure who you are, you might as well work on who you want to be. ~Robert Brault,
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