I just want to say I am doing fine.

I saved my marriage thanks to Just Learning and several others.

Not sure if JL is around.

Life is good!

It can be done, hang in there!!!!!!

Hey Stanley,

Good to hear the marriage is doing well. Yup, I still hang around. Not as active as I used to be, but it is good to hear your update. Some of the newbie's might want to hear more details as it might help them.

JL

JL:

Great to hear from you. You certainly have a lot of wisdom.

As from my side. The pain seems to go away at two years post d-day. At least for me it did.

I actually trust my wife again.

I have to say that NC is everything regarding recovery and this is very hard for wayward spouses. I consider myself lucky because OM was 2000 miles away and yet he became a stalker. Back in the home town of my wife (where OM lived) OM managed became a very good friend of the entire family so he could extract some info about my wife.

In any event so far so good. I am very glad I did not end the marriage.

CIAO!!!!!

Hello Stan-ley

I wish you would share your story, like how long the A was, how it started, how you found out, what recovery was like etc. I know as a BS only 10 months out from d-day hearing a success story would really help me and give me hope that I can survive this like you have.

I hope someday I too can come back here to say "yeah we made it and life is good again".

Glad to hear that you are happy!

Half-All you have to do to check people's stories is click on their name, click on view posts. Then go to Topic created, go to the highest number page, go to the bottom and you will most likely see their first thread.

Stan-ley, thanx for stopping in. It is always nice to see people come back and check in after they have recovered. It helps us newer posters get some more stories and advice. Thanx

To HU:

My original posts following d-day are no longer available.

As to my story:

Affair developed after nearly 30 years of marriage. I don't believe there were major problems in the marriage other than stress with adult kids. This was much more stressful on my wife.

I introduced my wife to computers in 2003-04. Up until that time she had no interest. Shortly afterwards she got the hang of it and OM (an ex-classmate) contacted her through classmates.com ---------and voil�.

She fell in love over the Internet with a HS classmate that she never paid attention way back when. The typical story is an old flame, but OM was never in the radar screen for her when she was young.

She showed me the OM photo when she started to use the computer and I thought nothing of it. Furthermore ex-class mate was 2000 miles away.

TBC

The affair lasted two years.

I discovered the affair because wife did not seem to demand attention as before and seemed happy. One day I walked past her while she was on the computer and immediately closed the window and got nervous. Key logger did the rest of the discovery.

With the key logger I verified that she told OM online that she had to end the affair right away and that she had to make it up to me even if it took a lifetime. She was truly remorseful in the immediate aftermath of the discovery.

She struggled with NC for several months, but eventually did it. She never intended to leave the marriage and basically nodded every time OM talked about future plans.

The important thing to understand is that WW fall in love.

My wife was a classic example of a woman that needed admiration and I must have no done enough of that after so many years of marriage.

She was an active participant in the forum and had many battles with JL and others.

Hi Stan-ley,

Yes they are. As Scottie said, if we click on your name and "view posts", the links come up, with the most recent first.

Your old posts are in the archive, but can still be viewed. They make painful and absorbing reading!

Stanley,

Tell me you haven't retired yet! There is no way you are old enough to do that right????

JL

Retirement???

My youngest one starts college this fall.

Now-------you could be retired.

How about Bob Pure? He was a frequent poster. I also remember Kiwi.

Bob Pure has a thread on the recovery section, but the news is only so-so. I'm sure Kiwi will stop by soon.
Glad to hear you made it through....

Scotland,

Thanks for telling me how to find it. Since I am not feeling well today and am going to take the day off I will read his old thread. It took me 2 days to read yours, felt as if I was in the middle of a book I could not put down. So interesting!! Your strength is what amazed me.

Stan_ley,

Thanks for sharing and I love that you made it, especially after 30 years of marriage, it gives me hope.