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Anne, I used a Yahoo addy too and had no problem. Also, Yahoo has upgraded their storage ability. But Gmail is also a good option.
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Smilingwoman & OurHouse - Thanks for the feedback about free email. I'm going to send it to a Yahoo account I opened. Just waiting for the activation code.
Ugh, Dirtbag sent me a congratulations email about the baby. Sometimes I don't know who is worse...WH or Dirtbag. I wonder what they are planning. I tend to get emails from Dirtbag when they have something in the works. I think it makes it more fun for him to somehow incorporate me into their games.
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I find that VERY disturbing. Really creeps me out.
Do you find yourself leaning toward not wanting this man (either one actually) in your life?
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I am 100% certain that I do not want Dirtbag in my or my children's life. As for WH, I don't even know who he is anymore so I can't say. I am losing hope every day that he is or ever was the man I thought he was. He will be in my life though since I have children with him. I just need to figure out what role he will play in my life. That's one of the reasons I need to know the truth so badly.
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Anything new Anne? Thinking of you this morning.
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Anything new Anne? Thinking of you this morning. Nothing new since the horrible news about the ultrasound picture/joke. He's not at it every day so it makes it hard to get intel. He left his phone at home today so there won't be anything from the VAR which is fine because I got a new microphone for it and I wanted to test it anyway. Still waiting on the code for keylogger but I haven't had access to his laptop all week anyway. He got a virus yesterday so the IT guy will have it. Very lucky that I didn't get to install keylogger earlier this week as I had hoped since the IT guy would surely find it. It was a very rough week but I'm hanging in there. It helps to know that others are thinking of me. Thanks for checking in. As soon as I find anything else out, I will let you know. Hopefully, that will be soon!
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Can someone provide some insight?
Married 8 years, wife and I have become indifferent because of life, routine, etc. She stated wanting to leave because of an emotional affair she started with someone she was working with online (online job-work from home). I contacted gentleman to distance himself since wifey and I decided to seek marriage counseling. He has done so, however wife suspects I may have had something to do with it. She hasnt had the courage to do it herself...should i cop to it?
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Its been 2 years now since she first mentioned leaving yet, she has done nothing to move in that direction except maintain distant relations with this gentleman. she also says her wanting to leave has nothing to do with him. I believe in the beginning that was the case however, 2 yrs later, i dont believe that.
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if she wanted to leave regardless of him, wouldnt she have done so already? its two years later.
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Hi Marriedguy,
I am so sorry that you find yourself to be a member of this club that no one wants to join. You really need to start your own thread to get any attention to your situation and also to not threadjack Annie's thread.
Please read all of the info on the site and go through other threads where you will likely find similiar situations. Include such info as yours and your WW's ages, when married, children, how you discovered the A. Things are kind of slow on the weekends so be patient. You are in a good place to get help with your M.
God's blessings,
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4 kids and 4 grandbabies between us
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One day at a time by God's grace.
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so sorry for the lack of etiquette, sorry annie
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Okay everybody. I have a new development. Tell me what you think of this email I recieved from WH today:
"We were invited over to OW/ButterFace's townhouse for her to show the boys her new dog tomorrow night. We are just going to be outside with the dog at her park across the street, no dinner planned, but still good opportunity for you two to meet. She told me this morning her soon to be ex client the municipal league will be getting a case for us as a test case in the next couple of weeks."
My head is spinning and I don't know what to do/say/think. Thoughts? Advice?
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Wait he wants you to meet the OW? WHY?? So you can punch her lights out? That would be the only explanation? But I haven't read threw your thread yet, just this last post of yours.
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Okay everybody. I have a new development. Tell me what you think of this email I recieved from WH today:
"We were invited over to OW/ButterFace's townhouse for her to show the boys her new dog tomorrow night. We are just going to be outside with the dog at her park across the street, no dinner planned, but still good opportunity for you two to meet. She told me this morning her soon to be ex client the municipal league will be getting a case for us as a test case in the next couple of weeks."
My head is spinning and I don't know what to do/say/think. Thoughts? Advice? Interesting. I would agree to go, looking at it as a fact-finding mission. Just to see how they interact. Don't be surprised if they act 'normal' but they may tip their hand without meaning to, and you'll be there to see some sort of confirmation of what you expect.
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In the spirit of �Keep your friends close and your enemies closer� I would certainly go.
He�s implying that they will be spending more time together soon and this visit is to gaslight you down the road with the �What are you talking about? You know we�re just friends.�
My first take is they are about to escalate the adultery.
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Of course, you'll want to look your best and make sure you occasionally place a loving, possessive hand on H's arm, giggle prettily at his jokes, etc. Just in case he's painted you as the Wicked Wife of the West that he's in a loveless marriage with, KWIM?
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I'm bumfuzzled?
Either your husband is one of the most brazen WH's ever, inviting you to her townhouse to meet the OW, thinking you are completely clueless.
Or, this has been a giant red herring? It's completely true that the way your husband has talked about this woman to scumbag friend is far beyond inappropriate, but was it just false bravado for scumbag friend's benefit?
It reminds me of how I behaved with friends in middle school. We all talked so demeaning about girls and bragged about what we would do, should do, and even made up stories about what we have done. But, none of it was real.
Your husband and especially the scumbag friend sound like Jr. High boys. I'm not saying this is the case, but it makes me wonder.
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but still good opportunity for you two to meet. This really is not that uncommon. We have seen this many times before here.
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Is the VAR in the car today? It might be interesting.
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We were invited over to OW/ButterFace's townhouse for her to show the boys her new dog tomorrow night Okay, first of all... if this OW IS just a friend and they supposedly don't speak often... why would she think to call YOUR husband and ask him to bring YOUR boys over to see her new dog? I can't imagine a casual friend doing this, maybe a friend who I was involved with enough to know that they even HAVE a new dog or who would assume I or my children would be interested in seeing this dog. And inviting you? This has to be a ruse for you to "see with your own eyes" that hey, we're just friends! See?? Otherwise why all the explanation about where they will be (as in not inside her home just at a dog park.) Somethin' up here for sure. If it were me, I'd definitely go (looking smokin') and be asking her all kinds of questions or fishing for as much info on her as possible without it being obvious.
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