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Re: there is so much at stake freshday10 #2380281 05/27/10 07:01 AM
Joined: May 2008 Posts: 2,589 Mountains A armymama Member
armymama Member A Joined: May 2008 Posts: 2,589 Mountains	Could the numbers be an IP address of a computer? If so, I think there are ways to figure out the location of the computer. AM BW - 70 WH - 65 M - 35 years D-day - 17 Apr 08 H broke contact 11/1/09 Back in love after the worst thing that every happened to us.

Re: there is so much at stake freshday10 #2380326 05/27/10 08:24 AM
Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas M MelodyLane Member
MelodyLane Member M Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas	Originally Posted by freshday10 When the text from OM appears it is not a telephone number. It is a random set of numbers that appear to be some kind of code. Maybe part of SSN or something freshday, go check out this spying thread. CAn you put flexispy on her phone? It will send you the texts and a call log. flexispy.com Spying 102 "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101

Re: there is so much at stake MelodyLane #2380330 05/27/10 08:33 AM
Joined: Jun 2006 Posts: 6,058 M Mark1952 Member
Mark1952 Member M Joined: Jun 2006 Posts: 6,058	Assuming here that the sequence looks something like this XXX.XX.XXX.XXX or similar, it is most definitely an IP address. Since most carriers allow SMS (text messages) via Internet, this is actually a pretty common way of communication for some people.

Re: there is so much at stake Mark1952 #2380346 05/27/10 09:04 AM
Joined: May 2010 Posts: 23 North Dakota F freshday10 Junior Member
freshday10 Junior Member F Joined: May 2010 Posts: 23 North Dakota	these numbers are sequenced like the last 2 sets of numbers for social security xx-xxxx I wish there were a way I could check for social security numbers. Regardless it is something OM and WW know and understand

Re: there is so much at stake freshday10 #2380358 05/27/10 09:16 AM
Joined: May 2008 Posts: 642 S sickwithworry Member
sickwithworry Member S Joined: May 2008 Posts: 642	Originally Posted by freshday10 these numbers are sequenced like the last 2 sets of numbers for social security xx-xxxx I wish there were a way I could check for social security numbers. Regardless it is something OM and WW know and understand Fresh, I don't understand here. If your wife will not tell you who she is secretly texting you don't have honesty and openess in your marriage. So, all she says is "you don't trust me" and she may leave but won't reveal who it is. She is completely disrespecting you and your marriage, particularly considering her past. This may be just me, but I think I would say, "This ain't our first rodeo here, if you are not willing to share information with me regarding what to me is a very suspicious behavior in order for me to feel safe that tells me you no longer want to be married to me anymore. Hit the road." You don't need more evidence of an affair. She cheated before and she is hiding things from you now. Case closed. SWW Last edited by sickwithworry; 05/27/10 09:17 AM.

Re: there is so much at stake sickwithworry #2380411 05/27/10 10:25 AM
Joined: May 2010 Posts: 23 North Dakota F freshday10 Junior Member
freshday10 Junior Member F Joined: May 2010 Posts: 23 North Dakota	SWW - That is my plan but I want everything blown wide open. Even with no desire to remain married to her it is a personal vendetta to see this stopped. I want all the truth. I am too competitve perhaps, but in my exit there will be victory. I have not disclosed this as of yet but I oversee a ministry where many hurting people will be hurt even further. If it were just me I would be fine case closed. I just wish to lessen the impact on the innocent.

Re: there is so much at stake freshday10 #2380447 05/27/10 11:09 AM
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mckl Member M Joined: May 2010 Posts: 35	I am new to this as my wif'e affair was uncovered only 5 months ago. I don't know alot of the topic. However, if we work it out, and I put myself back out there, it can't happen again. If she stays again, there is no explanation needed. She will be gone. I would say to let go of any vendetta. it will eat you up, and your family. If she doesn't want you now, go live your life. You can do better

Re: there is so much at stake mckl #2380449 05/27/10 11:09 AM
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mckl Member M Joined: May 2010 Posts: 35	strays/ not stays

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