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You're fine if you're auditioning for a part in "Law and Order SVU", but this feedback is not marriage building. Just what are your intentions in this feedback? To show NP where Margie abused her children. And frankly, I find your claim to be a betrayed spouse particularly "incomplete". So what. I'm not here to please you. Again - what is your story? what makes you think you have anything of value to offer? This feedback cited above is not beneficial to the person to whom it was directed. I'm not asking you to coddle - far from it. I don't coddle either. But there is a grand canyon of difference between "directness" and cruelty.
I think you're on the wrong side of that canyon. Sir. Or Ma'am. I gave you my story. Would me reliving intimate painful details somehow legitimize me in your eyes? You continue to think as you choose.
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A statement is not a back story.
How have you used MB principles in your M?
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Then what ARE you here for? Because I haven't seen one enlightening post from you to ANY poster on here. The great thing here is that you are entitled to your opinion and I get to post mine.
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A statement is not a back story.
How have you used MB principles in your M? Is this a test? I use MB everyday.
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This is an insult to me. I have changed my entire marriage due to MB. It took a hard three years. No offense was intended, Bubbles - especially regarding the state of your M and the role MB plays in it. I was only referring to your posting style - you are more entertaining than Mai Mai, but you have a similar no-nonsense style.
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No, the great thing about this forum is that it helps people use MB to save their marriages. It's about advice based on those principles, not random opinions.
And yes, even a slight back story would probably appease most people here. Because it gives value to your advice, and gives a testimony to MB, instead of making victims of people who come here hoping for guidance and help.
Me: BW, 27 Him: WH, 29 DD 4 DS 1 Married 07/25/09 A began end of 08/2009 (possibly sooner) D-Day: 3/31/10 2nd D-Day: 4/9/2010 3rd D-Day: 4/21/10
Plan B (shortlived as it was): 18/05/10 WH decides to work on marriage: 20/05/10 False Recovery, Back to Plan B: 13/08/10
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Mai Mai - I have my answer. Not the one you gave, but your actions more than your words speak that you are here for your entertainment, not for the benefit of those you post to.
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Sorry, I'm not spending time coddling a child abuser who is also in an affairage and is a serial cheater.
If I could call child services, I would in a heartbeat.
Maybe I can convince her to do it herself.
Then you can fix her.
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Sorry, I'm not spending time coddling a child abuser who is also in an affairage and is a serial cheater.
If I could call child services, I would in a heartbeat.
Maybe I can convince her to do it herself.
Then you can fix her. MaiMai.....explain where in your advice you have referred to MB ONCE, please.
Me: BW, 27 Him: WH, 29 DD 4 DS 1 Married 07/25/09 A began end of 08/2009 (possibly sooner) D-Day: 3/31/10 2nd D-Day: 4/9/2010 3rd D-Day: 4/21/10
Plan B (shortlived as it was): 18/05/10 WH decides to work on marriage: 20/05/10 False Recovery, Back to Plan B: 13/08/10
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Sorry, I'm not spending time coddling a child abuser who is also in an affairage and is a serial cheater.
If I could call child services, I would in a heartbeat.
Maybe I can convince her to do it herself.
Then you can fix her. hmmmm, me thinks I've met you before....
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Meeting my wife's EN's is my "thank you" that refuses to be silenced.
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Try the 'view posts' feature. I'm finished defending myself from this nonsense.
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