Thanks T&C,

Just looked at my phone and noticed that SIL tried to call me at 5:30 this morning....this is scaring me to death. Why is she calling and why at 5:30 in the morning? I don't know how to handle this.

It just started my stomach churning. Also, they go with daddy this weekend and I worry about him taking them to see SIL or having her talk to them. Is there anything I can do about this?

I don't know there's anything you can do about the kids seeing their aunt - maybe I'm wrong though? Your kids are old enough to be able to sift out the truth from the lies a bit now.

I too would be upset that she is calling at 5:30am. But - just ignore it! Did she leave a message or text you? Delete it, if she did. Just ignore the call. Remain in a VERY DARK Plan B.

She didn't leave a message..... I didn't hear the phone ring since we were all asleep. I really didn't want a big mess, but he's going to mudsling because he does not want to look bad in anyone's eyes.....that's very important to him.

This is nonsense. A divorce can go on for as long as the parties allow it and who gets charged the attorneys fees isn't even decided until the end OR by agreement. Don't worry about this, just continue to drag your sweet little feet.

The only reason to "refile" is if the case gets dismissed by the Court for "want of prosecution" meaning -- no activity. They don't usually do that unless all the parties have not been served. The Court Fees at that point would only be the cost of filing the suit again. Nothing would be "awarded".

Your SIL has no "rights" to see your children, as she has no standing in the eyes of the Courts. You could refuse to allow her to ever see them again and there wouldn't be a daggum thing she could do about it. Heck, in Texas, it's even hard for grandparents to get any kind of rights unless there is PROVEN abuse and the mother AND father are both all-out crackheads or something drastic like that.

I don't think your SIL realizes you have this much power, especially if you are awarded primary custody of the children-- if it comes to that.

hope, what is wrong with her? Is she an alcoholic or an addict?

Just blow her off. She is a loon. If she calls, don't answer the phone.

OMG, that's too funny, I was wondering the exact same thing, lol. SIL definitely sounds like she has a few screws loose. A phone call at 5:30 in the morning??? Something is not right with her.

Hmmm, maybe your SIL had a good reason for calling you so early in the morning. You know, to try and find out if you are still besmudging people with amnesty!

Personally I bet your SIL has been wayward herself. The things she is saying and doing are very wayward in nature.

I agree. You can usually tell who is wayward. I can detect it now because when I tell people what WH did and they do not get a reaction like every human would get, then I know they did it too.
Your SIL needs to be ignored.
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Yes, you are right!!! SIL had an affair on her husband 20 yrs after marriage. Fortunately, for them, they had only one child that was already in college. Not that it was any less painful for her husband and child, but she doesn't know anything about taking care of 4 children.

My husband comes from a long line of mentally impaired people. His mother is schizo and on heavy meds. My husband told me that when his sister drinks there is a bad effect with her meds. She could have been drinking...I don't know. I called DD and told her not to answer the phone if SIL calls again. I will definitely not answer anymore from her.

T&C you're hilarious!!! That is a long-standing joke around the adults here in my life. My brother is constantly texting me asking if I'm besmudging people with amnesty.

Princess....thanks for that info...you are so helpful with the legal stuff. What really made her furious is that I emailed and talked on the phone with my H's step sister. There's some real rivalry there between the siblings of my FIL's first marriage and his marriage before he died....which incidently was birthed from an affair. This is a whole family of cheaters.

Today was a very good day. I was actually laughing and smiling with people all day. Got a confirmation from Postal service that there is a change of address for my H. He's having all his mail forwarded...unfortunately, there was no forwarding address...just the notification.

One of my husband's sisters posted this on her facebook status...

"How others treat me is their path ~ How I respond is mine." I felt it was directed at me soooooo, I posted this quote as my status:

The truth is "hate speech" only to those who have something to hide.--Michael Rivero

I just had to do it...there were others, but I'll save them for another time.

LOL, hope, I actually wondered about your status on Facebook when I first saw it (right after you changed it, I think). After reading what you wrote I automatically thought that maybe you were directing it at someone in particular but, of course, I wasn't 100% sure. However, now that I read your post above (here on MB) it is evident that my suspicions were, indeed, correct.

Ha ha, you are too funny, how nice to see you in a brighter mood (not to mention a humorous one as well.....you "besmudg-er" you, lol).

You were right T&C....I may have been wrong; she could have just posted that to be all feel goody. THis is the problem that I have with that quote...

People can crap on you, but how you respond should be subdued and all feel goody. (that's only one interpretation)

I'm sorry I shouldn't be so synical.......I'm feeling a little besmudgy today.

I love it!!

Here is one for the future: Misplaced compassion gives power to EVIL..

If I were in the same position as you, hope, I would have read that quote exactly the same way that you did so I can totally understand how you came to your interpretation of it. Come to think of it, considering how looney some of your in-laws seem to be, I wouldn't be surprised if you took that status just as it was meant to be taken...as a shot at you!

Hey, next time one of those weirdo's unloads their crap on you...send them a diaper in reply. HA HA

LOL, you sure on a roll with the humor today, aren't you?! I can't tell you how nice that is, it's great to hear you sounding more chipper as of late and I hope that you feel better and better with each day.

Oh, and btw, don't let any of your in-laws make you feel bad about yourself, I've seen your picture and you truly are a beautiful woman and anyone that says anything different is obviously just envious of you. Those silly people!

My daughter talked to me a little about a conversation she had with her Best friend and the girl's mom. Apparently, the BF's mom has been through an affair also. She asked my DD..."where is your dad living?" My DD said, "at the lake." Friend's mom said, "and where does he work?" DD told her that he works here in the city. friend's mom: "How far is that?" DD: "2 hours each way".
Friend's mom: "Well then that means is he's just taking you to the lake as opposed to living there" This woman went on to explain to DD the very things that I feel based on the evidence. It was confirmation for my DD14. I think DD was torn between the truth and thinking I was overreacting.

Ooooooh, that's good!

T&C you will have to friend me so that I can see you. Just sent a note with it so I will know it's you. I'm not a friend gatherer just for the sake of having a high number of friends, so I often reject people I'm not familiar with.

Melody,

I love that quote; I'll save it in my arsenal.