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HopefulButScared #2384061 06/02/10 04:49 PM
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Originally Posted by HopefulButScared
Kids were back home last night. It was "my" night (I am T/R/Sat on the agreement we made), but W showed up with her mom around 6:30, saying "I think it best I be here".

She and her mom worked around the house and let me have my time with the kids, then I put kids to bed, with goodnights from mom (which is fine with me, I'd like the goodnight routine to stay consistent as long as possible) then I slept in the basement bedroom.

Today, no meeting because I will not agree to leave house.

Why are you letting her take the kids and why aren't you sleeping in your bed?


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Originally Posted by HopefulButScared
Today, no meeting because I will not agree to leave house.

She won't proceed with meetings to finalize separation/divorce/whatever until you move out? This is AWESOME! Stay in that house!!!

What a negotiator: "I won't do what I want to do until you give me what I want." What kind of a threat is that? crazy


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HopefulButScared #2384082 06/02/10 05:49 PM
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So after we cut through all the drama and trauma that your WW has created;

She didn't take the polygraph today as intended, did she?

Which was her sole motivation in the first place.

She knows she couldn't pass it. She has not even asked you to take the one you agreed to. How could she, when she knew she would NOT be taking that test herself.

I think it is more than obvious now that she is desperate, and had to find a way to scuttle the plans that you both agreed to in front of everyone here on this forum.

Now, she refuses to come back here, because she knows the jig is up and certain folks have seen right through her. We do have a sniff meter for affairs. Much to her dismay.

Good luck,

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The extent to which she is now trashing MB and the forum for being unhealthy advice from a bunch of amateurs is hilariously ironic.


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Of course. We don't agree with her.

Much to her chagrin.


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HopefulButScared #2384206 06/02/10 10:05 PM
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Originally Posted by HopefulButScared
The extent to which she is now trashing MB and the forum for being unhealthy advice from a bunch of amateurs is hilariously ironic.

What does she say about the advice of Dr. Willard Harley, clinical psychologist with 35 years of experience helping people learn to have happy, healthy marriages? What about the advice of Steve Harley? The Marriage Builders coaches?

I mean, sure, we're all amateurs, but those people are professionals. It's not just the advice of a bunch of amateurs she is rejecting.


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markos #2384215 06/02/10 10:15 PM
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That isn't addressed....


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Wasn't a mistake having my beloved children. Without her, they would never be in my life. I will never forget that, and have reminded myself of that many times in the past three days.

But I know you meant no ill-intention with the comment bubbles...

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Originally Posted by HopefulButScared
Wasn't a mistake having my beloved children.

I'm glad to hear you feel that way. You might want to search that other poster's history to get more perspective about how she feels about children.


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Bubbles4U #2384369 06/03/10 09:28 AM
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Originally Posted by Bubbles4U
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Not very helpful, Bubbles.

I made the mistake 25 years ago of not taking a job that was offered to me by a company that would grow to be one of the largest Internet-based businesses in the world, and which would have made me a millionaire many times over.

Nothing I can do about that now. It was my decision, and I have to live with it. Do I regret it? Only because it would have made me rich. I don't regret that I would have had to sacrifice many of the principles I hold dear in order to have done it.

Harping over "shoulda, coulda, woulda" isn't productive, Bubbles. We are here to help in the here and now.

I know HBS will be OK. This is a rough time, and he needs all of the help and support we can give him. So many people outside of this forum do not understand MB principles, and how to recover. We do. We need to be there for HBS and others like him, to help show him how WE have survived similar circumstances.

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I love children and they love me. I have no children myself and do not want any because I cannot help it I dont have that drive. I hate it when children are hurt because of the parents problems. Maybe your kids will be OK. We can only hope.

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These are the three main mistakes you made. Perhaps after a lot of legal money and holding firm, you can at least get a better life going even though you made these three fatal "life" errors.

Here we go again, Bubbles is going to trash BSs when they are in the depths of despair. How many times does you need to be asked to stop this, Bubbles?

HBS ~ please put Bubbles on ignore. She is not helpful to BSs. And then ignore her ridiculously hurtful post. She is not a BS and has no idea the pain a BS endures. I'm sorry she said this to you.


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But I know you meant no ill-intention with the comment bubbles...

Don't be so sure...she does this all time, she follows BSs around and tortures them with her cruel words when they are hanging by a thread.

PLEASE, HBS...put her on ignore.


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MarriedForever #2384750 06/03/10 03:48 PM
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Originally Posted by MarriedForever
HBS ~ please put Bubbles on ignore.

I agree.


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From the top of the page:

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Sometimes you may hear alternative opinions that conflict with Dr. Harley's Ten Basic Concepts. These are often raised by those who have not solved their own marital problems, but still feel they are qualified to advise others. When this happens you can expect some members to explain why their approach won't work, and why Marriage Builders� offers a better solution. There are many who are offended when that happens, but please keep in mind that the ultimate purpose of this Forum is to discuss and learn Marriage Builders� concepts.


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P.S. to put someone on ignore, click on their name; then View Profile; then Ignore This User.



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Originally Posted by MarriedForever
P.S. to put someone on ignore, click on their name; then View Profile; then Ignore This User.

Below is a link to conflict resolution, here on MB.
This is what is recommended when any poster will not back off, when posting inappropriately.

http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2105442#Post2105442
cool


Pepperband #2387627 06/09/10 03:27 PM
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This thread dried up faster than a grape in the desert sun. Are either of you still around? How about an update?

A bump to bring it back to the top. Hoping someone will see it...


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Fred_in_VA #2387771 06/09/10 06:35 PM
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I was thinking the same thing today...hope you are ok HBS...


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In Recovery and things are improving every day. MB rocks. smile
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