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Oh yeah, forgot...good post Neak, we all care about NP and lil' bean.  Exactly right Still. My thoughts and advice come from my desire to see NP and Lil Bean through the delivery as healthy as possible. It takes precedence over the marriage right now.
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Thanks so much for the concern and care, everyone! My baby IS my top priority right now and I honestly feel if it came down to choosing, the choice for who I would focus on would be very easy. I would not risk this l'il bean in any way, not even for my marriage - and mindshare, you ARE right in saying that the marriage is secondary right now to my health and that of the baby!
When I got home from work today, WH was very affectionate and loving. It gave me hope. I am sure Steve knows what he's doing, and I am putting my marriage in his hands. He says he has a plan and that this is a process - and right now, that is enough for me.
But yes, if it came to be too much for me, WH would be out the door so fast his head would be spinning. :P
Me: BW, 27
Him: WH, 29
DD 4
DS 1
Married 07/25/09
A began end of 08/2009 (possibly sooner)
D-Day: 3/31/10
2nd D-Day: 4/9/2010
3rd D-Day: 4/21/10
Plan B (shortlived as it was): 18/05/10
WH decides to work on marriage: 20/05/10
False Recovery, Back to Plan B: 13/08/10
Filed for D Feb 2011, D April 2012
Looking forward to the sunshine and rainbows life should hold for us all!
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I'm glad you are focused and looking out for you and lil' bean, NP. I know your due date is soon... My DS's 2nd b'day is mid-month, 2 days before your due date, so you've been on my mind as to how close u are. Ok, I'm rambling cause it's way early but I just wanted to say how happy i was that you are focused on your little one.
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My DS birthday is june 21 so stick to your Due date NP. 
BW me-41 WH -39 DS - 9 married 12 Yrs together(?) 18 yrs when A discovered DDay aug 2007 found MB dec 2007 Moved out april 2008 still seeing OW Plan B Okay I fixed the ages, it was looking screwy.
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What a morning! I found out at my dr's appointment yesterday that the baby might be breech, so they called me today for an ultrasound to confirm. THEN, I had my bloody show so the baby could probably come anytime within the week. To top it off, on the way to work I got a speeding ticket! lol - they say it comes in three's....
On another note, I overheard WH on the phone last night. He was talking to a friend whose brother is having marital problems, and WH started telling him all about Steve and MB and how amazing it all is, and how much sense it all makes. He told his friend, "If you care about your brother and wants to save his marriage, tell him to go to this website and give the guy a call." I giggled to myself, but didn't let on that I had heard him. At least it shows it's sinking in!!
Me: BW, 27
Him: WH, 29
DD 4
DS 1
Married 07/25/09
A began end of 08/2009 (possibly sooner)
D-Day: 3/31/10
2nd D-Day: 4/9/2010
3rd D-Day: 4/21/10
Plan B (shortlived as it was): 18/05/10
WH decides to work on marriage: 20/05/10
False Recovery, Back to Plan B: 13/08/10
Filed for D Feb 2011, D April 2012
Looking forward to the sunshine and rainbows life should hold for us all!
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NP, second babies are funny. You can get the signs of impending birth early (like the mucas plug) or not any sign. Not all second babies drop like first babies either. Just make sure you have your bag packed in case you are early.
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On another note, I overheard WH on the phone last night. He was talking to a friend whose brother is having marital problems, and WH started telling him all about Steve and MB and how amazing it all is, and how much sense it all makes. He told his friend, "If you care about your brother and wants to save his marriage, tell him to go to this website and give the guy a call." I giggled to myself, but didn't let on that I had heard him. At least it shows it's sinking in!! ROCK ON SH!!! That is awesome!!! Your WH reaching out to someone else with a marital crisis and recommending MB is the best news I have heard in a long time. The best way for him to wake up is to help someone else. When we feel it is safe for you...it would be great to bring him here to post. Not yet though, it is too soon to give up your safe place.
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OMG...That cop gave you a ticket and you are nine months pregnant..he could have given you a break....And about WH, maybe Steve can tell its sinking in to your WH that he can fix this M....Thats like music to my ears....
I only have one son and he was two weeks late and they had to induce me...My DS, when I told him how he didnt want to come out, tells me now that he remembers that he liked it in there...Hahahaha. Silly kid.
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OMG...That cop gave you a ticket and you are nine months pregnant..he could have given you a break.... WH said I should have turned on the water works to get out of the ticket. I was just shocked - it's my first ticket in my life and the ONE DAY I don't slow down in that zone, I get ticketed - go figure! lol I was REALLY happy to hear WH talking about MB. It actually made my night. Even if he doesn't discuss it with me yet, it shows that he thinks about it and is at least starting to believe in it.
Me: BW, 27
Him: WH, 29
DD 4
DS 1
Married 07/25/09
A began end of 08/2009 (possibly sooner)
D-Day: 3/31/10
2nd D-Day: 4/9/2010
3rd D-Day: 4/21/10
Plan B (shortlived as it was): 18/05/10
WH decides to work on marriage: 20/05/10
False Recovery, Back to Plan B: 13/08/10
Filed for D Feb 2011, D April 2012
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Yikes, lots happening very quickly! Let me overshare on the whole "bloody show" thing. Happened to me w/ the 2nd, 1.5wks early. Obviously I asked Dr. Google about it, and consensus was that labor would start w/in 24h. While there's no guarantee, and most will give the caveat that it could still be something like 2wks away, just be prepared. Like faithful said, have that bag packed! I totally went w/ the longer expectation, only to go into labor about 15h later. Wow - I am excited and scared for you all at the same time! I don't know if I should say good luck or congratulations or ahhhhh!
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Oh and let us know so we can pray for your delivery!
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Congratulations! Having a sign of soon labor and seeing a WH light bulb moment all at the same time. It's always so much more obvious to us what other people should do. 
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Oh and let us know so we can pray for your delivery! Take your laptop into the delivery room and post to us between contractions! ![[Linked Image from freesmileys.org]](http://www.freesmileys.org/custom/image/white%5E_%5Earial%5E_%5E0%5E_%5E0%5E_%5EDeep cleansing breath...%5E_%5E.gif)
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Oh and let us know so we can pray for your delivery! Take your laptop into the delivery room and post to us between contractions!  I thought that was a given...
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![[Linked Image from pic4ever.com]](http://www.pic4ever.com/images/899.gif) This is my guess on what the baby is gonna look like, a smiley...
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Thanks everyone!! I will keep you all updated.....uh....maybe not in between contractions but definitely soon. My sis had her bloody show and went into labour FOUR DAYS later - so it could be a while yet. If I disappear for a while you will know!
Me: BW, 27
Him: WH, 29
DD 4
DS 1
Married 07/25/09
A began end of 08/2009 (possibly sooner)
D-Day: 3/31/10
2nd D-Day: 4/9/2010
3rd D-Day: 4/21/10
Plan B (shortlived as it was): 18/05/10
WH decides to work on marriage: 20/05/10
False Recovery, Back to Plan B: 13/08/10
Filed for D Feb 2011, D April 2012
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![[Linked Image from pic4ever.com]](http://www.pic4ever.com/images/bliss.gif) Im so excited for you!!!! Whadeeya mean your not gonna post in between contractions?
BW me-41 WH -39 DS - 9 married 12 Yrs together(?) 18 yrs when A discovered DDay aug 2007 found MB dec 2007 Moved out april 2008 still seeing OW Plan B Okay I fixed the ages, it was looking screwy.
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Good luck NP and happy/safe delivery! (Happy dance!)
Is the baby still breech?? Hope not!
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2nd PA - 06/02 to 11/04
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