LOL! I thought it was a baby - didn't look that closely! Well, you know how it is...some days you think you're changing the diapers, but you're really washing the spoons...it can blur...Mommyhood...

Mommyhood by Smileys:



















And that's just from our MB stock of smileys!

TOO accurate!! Last night DD2 had a meltdown (this is at 2am) because she said her "feet were hurting" and I had to kiss them better and then sit there and rub them for her, the little diva. Then when I finally went back to bed she sobbed away quietly like her world was ending lol.

Just talked with Steve. He said it sounds like WH is not really doing any work, and he said the conversation he had with me about why the affair happened ("I failed to protect my EN's and let them be filled by someone else, when they should only have been fulfilled by you, my wife." End of convo.) was very insincere and nowhere near sufficient.

I don't know if he's not WILLING to do the work here, or whether he isn't ready. Steve said he needs to be reminded that we are in injury treatment, NOT recovery, and he is going to talk to him about what he needs to do, and try to make him understand the level of trauma an affair causes.

I should have bugged the house so I could hear the convo. :P I'd be very interested to know what is being said!!!

I guess that means it is still Plan A for you then?



Well, SH IS the professional. I am GLAD you are getting great help.

I guess it's still Plan A. I told him today I was running out of patience and strength FAST on this, especially with the baby potentially coming within the week. He said he had to revisit concepts with WH and I said, "So what do I do now?" He told me "Be encouraging." That sounds like Plan A to me.

I would like to kick WH in the nuts. Obviously this far, at least, SH has seen more out of him than I have though, or I HOPE his advice and guidance would be different.

I'm with you on this NP..... I'm still worried he is doing just enough to get by right now so he is allowed to be part of the birth. Hope I'm wrong....

OMG I almost PEED. I am laffing so hard that my stomach hurts. I can kick him if you want.

NP, refresh me, please. There has been verifiable NC for how long?
When is the last time you talked to OWH? What was the status of their M at that time?

As far as I can tell, there has been NC since that text she sent him on March 23. I have been checking his emails, his phone, and nothing. Waiting for the cell phone records to come in to be DOUBLY sure (and if they don't show records, I will ask for him to reset his online password so it can be accessed). That was also the last time I spoke to OW H and at that time, they were planning on ... not working on their marriage, necessarily, but opening themselves up to see if there wasy anything left between them to rebuild their marriage on. I don't know what the status of it is now - and I haven't contacted him since because it was starting to be destructive to my own marriage rebuilding.

WH has also been going through some major withdrawal lately. Moody half the time, and angry, and distant. There are times when he's my old husband, without the fog, but I know he's still under the fog right now.

And yes, Scotty, feel free....I'll hold, you kick....

Okay. I'm on my way. Tehehehe.

I'll hold him while you kick. NP, you shouldn't strain yourself in your delicate state.

You meant to say May 23 on this response right NP? I know that it wasn't all to long ago on your thread when WH was in another room of your house texting OW all night long. Or am I thinking of someone else?

We have another Mel on our hands, I think...

Yes. May 23. Thanks for the correction.

And I am glad to have her on my side! lol

I was in Air cadets and I was a REALLY good shot. WH used to joke that he never wanted to pizz me off. WH's friends were showing off one time, shooting the tabs off of hanging pop(soda for you Americans) cans. When I shot the string holding the tab, they stopped. They didn't like a GURL out shooting them. In range, with a .22 in prone position, you could fit a quarter over my 10 shots. As long as the rifle was sighted correctly, it would be on the bull's eye. WOW, I sound like I am BRAGGING. Okay, maybe a little.

I say 'pop' - does that make me an honorary Canadian?

Yankees and Canadians apparently say "pop". We Southerners say "Coke" or "CoCola", even if it's a Pepsi, Dr. Pepper, Mountain Dew, or whatever!

Exactly... everybody knows that when you ask for a Coke, you follow it up with what kind (i.e., Dr. Pepper, Pepsi, etc.)