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There is NO guarantees on that Pale my friend, the odds of all her friends on fb having no loyalty towards her bh is so close to zero it is incalcuable. prd
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I found their WH and OW Supervisors info email, phone and fax. Should I call or email him instead of HR? If I send a hard copy should I wait a few days for it to arrive before I hit FB. I am still at a loss for OWH...
@Scotland I did read that I should expect him to be furious and I should tell people to not hide the issue.
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The problem with hanging hopes on her OWH finding out this way is that the TRUTH won't get out there. There is going to be such a spin and many of the people are going to be OW's friends. There are BOAT LOADS of enabling friends and people who think that "you should do whatever makes you happy." The only way to KNOW that the OWH is told, is to do it herself.
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING  Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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I found their WH and OW Supervisors info email, phone and fax. Should I call or email him instead of HR? If I send a hard copy should I wait a few days for it to arrive before I hit FB. I am still at a loss for OWH... You should write a hard copy to HR, the supervisor, the president, the Vice-president and the legal department. Make sure that you CC the letters so they all know that the others received the letter as well.
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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You have her friends, but what about your friends? his friends? family? Pastor at your church? You need to let EVERYONE KNOW! I wouldn't wait either, if you know where he works, write the letter and send it to him PERSONALLY!  Are you prepared for your plan A after this exposure? That is your next focus!
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SR, I only suggested that Quamie wait until she has ALL of the contact info for EVERYONE. Sometimes that takes a few hours. There is no harm in waiting 12 hours to get this done. Lists written, letters typed, etc. You need to be prepared when you go into war and this is the first volley in this war. Prepare for the fight and you won't be caught off guard. The ONLY regrets I have about my exposure was that it wasn't done as NUCLEAR as it should have been and that it wasn't wide enough.
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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I agree with Scotland. I am waiting and I am going to keep digging for the OWH info... I need prayers and a stroke of luck
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PLAN B-9/25/10 A light shade of Gray.
"You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, " I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes" Eleanor Roosevelt
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they'll attempt spin regardless. i would go nuclear right away!
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they'll attempt spin regardless. i would go nuclear right away!
prd prd, Nuclear = everybody at the same time..including OWH...
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How to you suggest a nuclear exposure with KEY players missing? You never know where that stroke of luck will come from. POSOW in my case is single so I was looking for her family. She had such high privacy settings on her FB that I couldn't even find her profile. Then some time in early December, FB changed their privacy settings. POSOW didn't change hers and her FB profile was OPEN for me for a couple of hours. I got all of the messages out to her family. I didn't copy her friends list though and when she shut her FB page again, I did all that I could. I still am not SURE if her parents know. That KILLS me, 6 months later. I don't want this for Quamie. Quamie, you NEED to expose, just do it correctly. It will have a GREATER effect if done properly.
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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sorry, i'm a newbie. what is posow? i dont get it.
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Piece of Sh*^ Other woman.
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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piece of excrement other woman
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Piece of Sh*^ Other woman. edit
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Can we discuss matters about Quamie on her thread please? I have my own thread titled "ummmmmm I installed a keylogger....." if you have any questions about me and my sitch.
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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Quamie, Some suggestions to track down OWH... go to the whitepages and do a "reverse lookup" looking up the address. it usually lists everyone that lives in the house and their age. If you find out the OWH is at that address, go there and either knock at the door or hand him the letter. Get a friend to follow her and see where her address is. Hopefully one of her "friends" will give you that information. Try this site. www.pipl.com. You put in a name and it will tell you all the social websites this person goes to and it is a free service. Blessings
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
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Quamie, Some suggestions to track down OWH... go to the whitepages and do a "reverse lookup" looking up the address. it usually lists everyone that lives in the house and their age. If you find out the OWH is at that address, go there and either knock at the door or hand him the letter. Get a friend to follow her and see where her address is. Hopefully one of her "friends" will give you that information. Try this site. www.pipl.com. You put in a name and it will tell you all the social websites this person goes to and it is a free service. Blessings
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09
Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."
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 you trying to get your post count up Hope?? Q, does OW have children? I found out the STBXH's name by finding out what the kids surname was.
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They have children yes I know their names as well as the OWH name. I have an address I am not sure if it is current as she stated she had moved in Feb when we last spoke before I knew she was the OW. I will take a look at the revers look up thing as well. I can have a friend drive by. I have thought of sending a letter addressed to him but then it would have to be forwarded to the new address if they have moved. But that is my only thought at this point to send a letter and hope that he receives it.
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Expo-6/16/10
PC-7/16/10-9/25/10
Moved out 8/12/10
PLAN B-9/25/10 A light shade of Gray.
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I would send a letter certified so he HAS to sign it. Insist on ID. Then ask the OWH to contact you ASAP. Don't give all of the info in the letter so he WILL call you. That's all I have on this part. Thoughts vets?
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