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You can do this, Q. Stay strong. But please, if this is causing you too much physical stress for you and the baby, take a break. Regroup. Relax. Drink some tea. Have one of the teens take care of the 5 yr old so you can get rest.
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The good thing is the 5yo is with my mom this week. I have been on bed rest for almost 2 weeks so that was taken care of then, thank you for the concern.
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"You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, " I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes" Eleanor Roosevelt
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Hi Quamie, what about OWH? Any luck with that.
I wish you a great exposure that will implode this.
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YES!! make this exposure NUCLEAR! Good luck 
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Hi Quamie, what about OWH? Any luck with that.
I wish you a great exposure that will implode this. No info on OWH but I felt that this was the time this was it. I am so scared of the fall out so please send me info on what to say or do.
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PLAN B-9/25/10 A light shade of Gray.
"You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, " I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes" Eleanor Roosevelt
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Wh sent me a text he said "I cant fu** believe you... Its happened... What do I do?What do I say?
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"You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, " I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes" Eleanor Roosevelt
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stay calm! no AO, no LB, just keep saying "I love you and I'm trying to save my M"
Nothing else, just smile, and wait till it is ALL out of his system.
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WH stated he doesn't respond well to threats, I am vindictive, and how could I do this to his career. It wasn't the offices business and no one knew. He is done with me and us. The affair is NOT over and this only made it worse. Why would I bring other people into our business, why would I do this. He is taking no blame for this as this was my choice and I should not have done what I did.... All those things and then he hung up on me... Omgoodness... I am so scared.
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PLAN B-9/25/10 A light shade of Gray.
"You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, " I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes" Eleanor Roosevelt
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you just rocked his fantasy world. dont worry. he can gripe all he wants. dont you feel strong now? like you are taking control of this cyclone?
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Exposure is very effective in pushing the affair into the light. Making others see it.
It will HELP! You just won't see it for now. Do not respond to his venom, you are pregnant, and don't need the stress.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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This is "our" business, is it?
This is something he started. He brought a POSOW into your marriage. While you were pregnant.
This is his vile behavior. If you ever feel bad for exposing, just remember. This was HIS fault.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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He is doing what the threads and books say. Threading to leave, stating I hurt and betrayed him, ruined his career. Made the situation worse, pushed him into her arms just when it was getting better.
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"You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, " I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes" Eleanor Roosevelt
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He is just mad. This is just venom. This is normal. Stay the course, and you will be fine.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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He is threatening to quit his job due to my exposure. This is all my fault and how could I betray him... This is soooo hard
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"You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, " I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes" Eleanor Roosevelt
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Can I change my user name?
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"You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, " I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes" Eleanor Roosevelt
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YOU hurt and betrayed HIM!??!?!??  <------your WH
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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Yes you can, I'm not sure how though.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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no worries. he'll be crying and begging for your forgiveness.
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Can I change my user name? Email any of the mods and make a request. Scroll down the page, there is a list of mods at the bottom. Click any name to get the info.
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I clikced on the notify for my post is that good enough?
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