DancesWithGoats, can I ask you a few questions? My WH is also a serial cheater. 1st one was 6 months after we got married & ended when his job transferred him to our home town vs. driving 40 mins away.
2nd & 3rd ones were within the last year & a half. The 3rd one only lasted 2 1/2-3 months, my WH thought he fell in love with this last one. The other two were only about "getting off" as he put it.
How do you deal with this emotionally? My WH broke things off with the last OW & came back to me (he was staying in a trailer my parents set up for him to give him alone time) after he confessed all of his A's to me on D-Day.
After they kept communicating, my WH telling the OW that he is sorry, that he thinks he made the wrong choice, asking her what she wants. The OW telling him that he did make the wrong choice but she knew that he'd always pick me over her in the end. With contact still being made...myself & a friend exposed the latest A to her BF & family & the OW sent my WH an NC e-mail. There has been ever NC since ;-) I keep checking up on him though to make sure of it as it's only been a little over a month.
I'm in Plan A right now. There are days that my WH reaches out for me & others that he doesn't. How long, with him thinking he loved the OW, does it take for the fog to lift? How soon should I start pushing for counseling?
Thank you for your time!
Hi stillhope!
You can ask and I can try to answer but I am still all over the map with a general sense of direction, lol. I will give you all the great stuff that was given me.
I hope you do not mind if I take this slowly. I want to consider it before I say much. It is very complicated, does not exactly fit the plans but it is still very much the same. An A is an A but lots of A's are different.
Do you feel like you have all the answers? Are you satisfied that what you do know is enough? I have not looked but I will check out your thread and see what has been going on before I say more. I did want you to know that I do not mind but I am still very much in the process myself and often get in my own way, I do not want to get in yours
. Let me read and think and I will be back.
Here is a link to my thread, it is long but it might be helpful.
http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/u...rds=Sadsosad&Search=true#Post2191610
