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Marriage Builders Forums Infidelity Surviving an Affair Serial cheaters; serial cheatees?

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Serial cheaters; serial cheatees? #2404024 07/12/10 07:39 PM
Joined: Jun 2010 Posts: 1 1 123RedLight OP Junior Member
OP 123RedLight Junior Member 1 Joined: Jun 2010 Posts: 1	I know there is such a thing as a serial cheater. And that it would be ideal to stay far away from such a person. But what about someone who repeatedly gets cheated on? Is that called a serial cheatee? What steps does someone like this take? Is it the cheatee's fault that they pick someone who cheats over and over?

Re: Serial cheaters; serial cheatees? 123RedLight #2404025 07/12/10 07:41 PM
Joined: Sep 2007 Posts: 862 Brisbane, Australia M myfamilyilove Member
myfamilyilove Member M Joined: Sep 2007 Posts: 862 Brisbane, Australia	Whats your story? Plan D June 08 Me FBS 36 W 38 Married 13/1/09 The best is yet to come, with or without your WS

Re: Serial cheaters; serial cheatees? 123RedLight #2404027 07/12/10 07:44 PM
Joined: Feb 2009 Posts: 1,249 S stillstanding2 Member
stillstanding2 Member S Joined: Feb 2009 Posts: 1,249	No-because most serial cheaters hide it so well. My dad was a serial cheater and nobody knew it for 29 years. My ex may have been a serial cheater based on signs in the marriage. I only caught him with one confirmed OW though. So, I don't believe it is ever the betrayed person's "fault". I HAVE learned to watch like a hawk for a liar. I have no tolerance for lying at all now. No "little" white lies. I feel that was my only sign that I looked past in retrospect. My mother also says that she overlooked a lot of bad behavior to "keep the peace". I did the same. Last edited by stillstanding2; 07/12/10 07:47 PM. Reason: emoticons Over it.

Re: Serial cheaters; serial cheatees? myfamilyilove #2404028 07/12/10 07:49 PM
Joined: Feb 2002 Posts: 349 S swan's song Member
swan's song Member S Joined: Feb 2002 Posts: 349	I think the steps would be to look at the pattern of your cheating spouse/bf or gf their boundaries with the opposite sex, their views on what they consider cheating or crossing the line, if they would cover for a friend who they know is cheating and if so, how they act around the cheated on partner, things of that nature oh and how they treat others they come across. service people...

Re: Serial cheaters; serial cheatees? swan's song #2404031 07/12/10 07:55 PM
Joined: Feb 2009 Posts: 1,249 S stillstanding2 Member
stillstanding2 Member S Joined: Feb 2009 Posts: 1,249	Both my dad and my ex were extremely polite to everybody. No flirting, no covering for friends. Both taught their children that cheating was abominable. Both were "family" men. Ha! Both were really good actors and actually hypocrites! Over it.

Re: Serial cheaters; serial cheatees? stillstanding2 #2404048 07/12/10 08:22 PM
Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 86 B Breezemb Member
Breezemb Member B Joined: Oct 2009 Posts: 86	I'm locking this one. Let's get back to marriage building please. 123RedLight - do not post again - You are in violation of TOS with multiple user names while under suspension. breezemb@gmail.com

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