Sugarcane, I have reported you to the "authorities"!

Actually, you do come off as judgemental. And in this thread, you did the same thing and made some 'she already knew that' postings. Most parents teach their children the dangers of underage sex, drinking, drugs, etc. They still make bad choices. Everyone knows the dangers of drinking and driving and the consequences, yet it happens on a daily basis.

You already made a post crying about what Sugar said to you. And then insulted her and said you were going to report her to the authorities. Why the need for a second post to point out what you already said?

You and your family are in our prayers today Writer.

Please let us know what happened as soon as you can.

Good luck and God bless.

Writer,

This is a tough call and your son has to make the final decision.

I would fight, I would take my chanches with the jury. There has to be mothers there that have sons, there is too little evidence - no physical, random IM's that could be from anywhere, he said, she said. The jury needs facts and evidence.

It is a gamble and maybe I am a gambler at heart but I think he would win.

Can the attorney ask that the other charge be dropped and lower charge put in place? Someone else asked about reduced time also.

As a mother I do understand that this is a struggle. He is a young adult and he will be the one to decide. My prayers go to you and your family.

Hope, there IS no jury, it's just the Judge. Huge difference.

Can you report me too? I would like to be in that catagory.

yeah there is no jury, an inept lawyer, and it comes down to a trial today in a state that seems to be handing out convictions in these cases.

If they could believe they would get a fair trial, I agree wholeheartedly. He should fight this high school drama on steroids. There is a lot of good reasons to, but without proper representation or worse, with a lawyer who will probably only do a halfaZZ job, it is probably safer to go this way.

It makes me angry to hear of this, and it tells of our legal systems problems.

Writer,

Just had to stop at your thread now this evening and just simply - peace be with you and your family, especially your son tonight, and forever.

Tom

Well writer the suspense is killing me. I will be waiting to hear what the details are. God Bless. BBL

I've been gone all day, so I am just now checking in, but I have thought about you a lot today writer. Your son's fb post is beautiful -- I wonder where he got that writing talent??

She signed off at 7:30 AM CAl time and its 7:30 PM Cal time now. I wonder if she is going with him as far as juvie hall. Do you think he went directly from court?

I hope everything is OK. Writer if you get home late and don't feel like posting get some rest and talk to you when yur ready.

Sorry I haven't checked in for awhile. I'm sure you can imagine that it has been a very emotional day for our family.

The plea is done. My son was taken into custody at the courthouse. He will serve 116 days (they are counting the 4 days he spent in custody when he was originally arrested). After his release, he will be on probation, which will be reviewed one year from today, so if he is doing well and following all the conditions of his probation, he may be clear and free in a year.

I don't have the emotional energy to give details right now, but I finally released just how delusional and emotionally unstable this girl and her family really are. We were all given a chance to speak at the hearing today, and I was just utterly stunned at some of the things that this girl and her family had to say. It almost made me feel sorry for them. Basically, the girl started bawling about how she is the only one who really loves my son and understands him and that no one will ever love him the way that she does.

THIS IS MY SON!!! I have known him and loved him for 18 years. And if what this girl has put my son through over the past year is her idea of "love" then I think everyone in the world would be far better off without it.

Anyway, I'm as okay as can be expected right now. Trying to stay strong. We get to visit our son every Saturday from 12:30 - 2:30 and of course I'll be sending him lots of letters.

Thanks for the keeping us in your thoughts and prayers.

Just thinking about you, writer, and feeling your pain. He will be home for Thanksgiving, by my calculations. That is something to look forward to.

Strange that the girl got up and said that, and it makes me wonder what it means. Odd that this revelation didn't come to her before all of this. I hope her statement was part of the transcription.

Jeremiah 29:11
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.

He is looking over you writer, and it sounds like you, feeling sorry for the little girl. Tell us more tommorow if you feel up to it.

You have done well IMO, Good night and pleasant dreams.

Sounds like the desparate ramblings of a confused little girl grabbing at justifications for her actions. If she tells herself that her love is true, then she is justified in her emotions. She really trusted that taking him to court was the right thing to do, and would make it all go away. I do feel sorry for her, but not enough to see this happen.

I hope she gets help and is seeing a counselor

I'm so sorry that this was the outcome, writer.

I hope that you get some sleep tonight.

writer i have been reading your thread over here. I do not have an great wisdom to impart on you and your family, but wanted to tell you that I am so sorry you are going through this all and i will be praying for you and your family!

I can completely empathize with you and your family, not from the view point of a parent but from a sister. I am sorry that this has happened to you, your son and your family. I see my own mother in some of what you had said during your posts and i am just so sorry for everything you are going through.

Fingers crossed that your life will be back to "normal" by Halloween, writer.
Here's a piece of unsolicited advice:
Use this time to get ~~writer's~~ house in order. Focus on your 10-year plan. It sounds like Cali sux for you, at least where you are now. Well? What can be done about that?
Is the only reason you are here because of your H's (dysfunctional) family? They certainly weren't there for you, when you needed them. So why stick around? Maybe time for both you and your H to uproot the family and start anew. Use these three months to formulate this plan--figure out where you want to go and make every effort to get there.
I'm hoping you can turn this whole horrible experience into something positive. Think about it--your DS18 will survive now--he won't have a permanent record. BUT.... your DS16 is truly on the wrong path. Maybe this whole thing can "scare him straight." Take him to visit his brother and see where he's going to end up (or worse). Show him that the path he's on is leading nowhere good.
I'm not an "everything is for a reason" type of person, so I don't think throwing your DS18 into jail is good in any way. But maybe ~~writer~~ can find a way to make some lemonade out of all these lemons?

(((((((((((((writer)))))))))))))

Time to look forward,
Time to plan
Time to heal

Blessings to your family. This too shall pass.

Future OW is what I predict. She is likely to remain stunted in her emotional growth unless she can get away from her parents and be forced to really mature. Every single (I am not talking MOW's here) OW I have encountered was emotionally immature.

Writer, give no more thought to this girl and her parents except to pray for her. I am praying for your DS's safety while in the system and for your family. I also am praying for this girl. I believe she really needs our prayers.