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#2412201 07/31/10 10:06 PM
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AW

I found your old posts just recently and went through them.

Just wondering if you had a little time to talk. I have seen you pop in and out recently.

Nesre


M 29 yrs
DS 28 DD 18
Me 53 FWH FBS
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D final 5/16/2011

Free.... and going wherever the big guy wants me to go......
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Hi,
Sure, I have time. I have been absent from the board for a long time but finally remembered my login and have been popping in from time to time. :-)

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#2017398 - 01/29/08 08:57 PM Re: LB ALCOHOL [Re: nesre]
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Loc: USA Dear Nesre,

You asked:
"Is there anyone out there who has lived a share of their life emmeshed in alcoholism/addiction and ended up in MB recovery???

Would anyone be willing share a success story???"

My husband and I are a success story. Some of there Veterans out there may remember us from posts back in 1999 - 2001 . Its been a long time! I stop in every once in a while and haven't been on here for a long, long while.

I don't know how far back the message board goes but if it goes back that far I'll see if I can find our 'success story' to repost for you. We've been recovered for close to 10 years now. Long story short, it was answered prayer.

God bless,
AW
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Me, BS Him, Alcoholic, FWH H did 180 in '01 Recovered, blessed marriage now Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, and the evidence of things unseen. Hebrews 11:1




You posted this to me back in 2008. I am just courious how M is today as compared to when you posted in early 2000.
There was a lot of blank spaces in your posts and I am quite curious. Maybe All the posts were not there. For a few years I could never get them to even come up.

The last I read you had filed and then it jumped around to others you were posting to with blanks how you and H got back together.

I hope you will share a little with me.

Thanks

Nesre


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Free.... and going wherever the big guy wants me to go......
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Would love to hear a success story of dual addiction to alcohol and OP.

It sure would inspire.


Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09

Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."
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I will try to be more specific. This may be vearing off the MB trail a little bit. I am just trying to understand the A + Alcoholic aspect.

For myself I feel I work a very good program of recovery from my Alcoholism. 2-3 meetings a week. Work with 2 sponsees. Active in other service work. Church. IC once a month or so.
4 years of Al-Anon. Went through 4 day family program at a local treatment cneter.

In a strange way I feel like I could live with my W's alcoholism. I can accept that part of her. I know what it is from my own experience.

What I can't accept is the A part. Is that what it came down to with you?

Thats kinda what I got out of your posts. Tell me if I am wrong.

If that was how you felt also how could you tell the difference between an A and just straight out going and drinking and getting lost. I have trouble telling and believing the the difference after the A was confirmed.

Was there a long lag time between you filing for D and you 2 getting back together?

Does this make sense?

Nesre


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We have a success story, happily recovered for 10 years now. I guess we would be the exception to the rule in that we recovered our marriage while DH continues drinking. We did counsel with steve harley which helped tremendously.

I will go through my old posts to see if I can find my testimony and will past the link here. I'm not sure if it will still be here cuz its really old. If not, I'll write a new one for ya.


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Thank you!

I know there are also many others that would love to see a success story.

Nesre


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Nesre,
Yes you have it right. The A was for me the last straw and I filed for D . Did dark plan b I guess you could say. Though I knew nothing of mb concepts I was plan a most of our marriage prior to d-day . H had a ' revelation moment that can only be explained as from above.
I will post more tomorrow from pc, too hard to type on the phone :-)



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TU Ttyl

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Not sure if this link will work but this should be it. Title is never give up.....what god can do

Http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum37/HTML/007629.html


Me, BS Him, Alcoholic, FWH H did 180 in '01 Recovered, blessed marriage now Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, and the evidence of things unseen. Hebrews 11:1
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AW, GREAT story.


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Originally Posted by Alcoholic's Wife
Nesre,
Yes you have it right. The A was for me the last straw and I filed for D . Did dark plan b I guess you could say. Though I knew nothing of mb concepts I was plan a most of our marriage prior to d-day . H had a ' revelation moment that can only be explained as from above.
I will post more tomorrow from pc, too hard to type on the phone :-)


AW
Thank you for posting. Your story has helped me to proceed with what is right at this point in the M and life. I have no clue where God is going to take this or what the future holds but I know it will work out according to His plans and in HIs time.

God Bless

Nesre


M 29 yrs
DS 28 DD 18
Me 53 FWH FBS
MTA signed 5/11/2011
D final 5/16/2011

Free.... and going wherever the big guy wants me to go......

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