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I found your old posts just recently and went through them.
Just wondering if you had a little time to talk. I have seen you pop in and out recently.
Nesre
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Hi, Sure, I have time. I have been absent from the board for a long time but finally remembered my login and have been popping in from time to time. :-)
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#2017398 - 01/29/08 08:57 PM Re: LB ALCOHOL [Re: nesre] Alcoholic's Wife Member
Registered: 06/26/99 Posts: 1411 Loc: USA Dear Nesre,
You asked: "Is there anyone out there who has lived a share of their life emmeshed in alcoholism/addiction and ended up in MB recovery???
Would anyone be willing share a success story???"
My husband and I are a success story. Some of there Veterans out there may remember us from posts back in 1999 - 2001 . Its been a long time! I stop in every once in a while and haven't been on here for a long, long while.
I don't know how far back the message board goes but if it goes back that far I'll see if I can find our 'success story' to repost for you. We've been recovered for close to 10 years now. Long story short, it was answered prayer.
God bless, AW _________________________ Me, BS Him, Alcoholic, FWH H did 180 in '01 Recovered, blessed marriage now Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, and the evidence of things unseen. Hebrews 11:1
You posted this to me back in 2008. I am just courious how M is today as compared to when you posted in early 2000. There was a lot of blank spaces in your posts and I am quite curious. Maybe All the posts were not there. For a few years I could never get them to even come up.
The last I read you had filed and then it jumped around to others you were posting to with blanks how you and H got back together.
I hope you will share a little with me.
Thanks
Nesre
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Would love to hear a success story of dual addiction to alcohol and OP.
It sure would inspire.
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years D17, D30 alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08 Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also) H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08 Plan B 1/09 D final 12/09
Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."
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I will try to be more specific. This may be vearing off the MB trail a little bit. I am just trying to understand the A + Alcoholic aspect.
For myself I feel I work a very good program of recovery from my Alcoholism. 2-3 meetings a week. Work with 2 sponsees. Active in other service work. Church. IC once a month or so. 4 years of Al-Anon. Went through 4 day family program at a local treatment cneter.
In a strange way I feel like I could live with my W's alcoholism. I can accept that part of her. I know what it is from my own experience.
What I can't accept is the A part. Is that what it came down to with you?
Thats kinda what I got out of your posts. Tell me if I am wrong.
If that was how you felt also how could you tell the difference between an A and just straight out going and drinking and getting lost. I have trouble telling and believing the the difference after the A was confirmed.
Was there a long lag time between you filing for D and you 2 getting back together?
Does this make sense?
Nesre
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We have a success story, happily recovered for 10 years now. I guess we would be the exception to the rule in that we recovered our marriage while DH continues drinking. We did counsel with steve harley which helped tremendously.
I will go through my old posts to see if I can find my testimony and will past the link here. I'm not sure if it will still be here cuz its really old. If not, I'll write a new one for ya.
Me, BS
Him, Alcoholic, FWH
H did 180 in '01
Recovered, blessed marriage now
Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, and the evidence of things unseen. Hebrews 11:1
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Thank you!
I know there are also many others that would love to see a success story.
Nesre
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Nesre, Yes you have it right. The A was for me the last straw and I filed for D . Did dark plan b I guess you could say. Though I knew nothing of mb concepts I was plan a most of our marriage prior to d-day . H had a ' revelation moment that can only be explained as from above. I will post more tomorrow from pc, too hard to type on the phone :-)
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Not sure if this link will work but this should be it. Title is never give up.....what god can do
Http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum37/HTML/007629.html
Me, BS
Him, Alcoholic, FWH
H did 180 in '01
Recovered, blessed marriage now
Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, and the evidence of things unseen. Hebrews 11:1
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BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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Nesre, Yes you have it right. The A was for me the last straw and I filed for D . Did dark plan b I guess you could say. Though I knew nothing of mb concepts I was plan a most of our marriage prior to d-day . H had a ' revelation moment that can only be explained as from above. I will post more tomorrow from pc, too hard to type on the phone :-) AW Thank you for posting. Your story has helped me to proceed with what is right at this point in the M and life. I have no clue where God is going to take this or what the future holds but I know it will work out according to His plans and in HIs time. God Bless Nesre
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