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I am confused, is there no way for the thread to be restored by the MB IT personnel? I mean I was once told even if things are deleted they can be retrieved? I am technologically challenged of course.
BS me 55yrs WH 59 yrs M 34 yrs 6/26/2010 DD 25 D Day May 5, 2010 NC 5/12/2010 Duration of affair 5 years, but other affairs discovered on D Day
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have registered to reply to Hope; this is my first post. Hope, you may have overreacted. I have been a lurker for many months and have read your thread for hours on end. I was trying to educate myself regarding my marriage and found your thread and a few others to be quite informational. Hi acantha, welcome to Marriage Builders. It is not uncommon for OP's and WS' to come here and discover the BS's thread. It happens quite often, in fact. We have had BS' who were blindsided by their own Marriage Builder's thread in court proceedings. We have had OW actually post to the BS under the guise of a "helpful" friend. ["helpful" by encouraging the BS to "let him go."] So I don't believe hope is overreacting at all. Lurkers typically go from thread to thread, they don't only sign up and read ONE thread for 9 hours and no others. That is not the behavior of someone who is here to learn, it is the behavior of someone who is garnering intel about someone. Even so, this can usually be verified by asking the moderators to check IP's. The mods can easily confirm whether the lurker was from hope's part of the country or not. I suspect when she asked them to move the thread she also had them check the IP of the lurker.
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I am confused, is there no way for the thread to be restored by the MB IT personnel? I mean I was once told even if things are deleted they can be retrieved? I am technologically challenged of course. I doubt they deleted it. I suspect they just moved it for safekeeping.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Wow, that is downright evil but then, what else would you expect from OPs and WSs? fits in perfectly with their personality type. Not trying to be hateful, just realistic!
BS me 55yrs WH 59 yrs M 34 yrs 6/26/2010 DD 25 D Day May 5, 2010 NC 5/12/2010 Duration of affair 5 years, but other affairs discovered on D Day
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Hope,
I started here reading Heartsores thread. I was on that thread from the beginning to the end for over 20 hours.
Great threads are great because the original poster listens, learns and posts regularly.
You had a great thread. Ask the mods to check, then make a choice.
PP wou?dnt have lasted more than 20 minutes on that thread b4 "weee-vweee"
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Hope,
I started here reading Heartsores thread. I was on that thread from the beginning to the end for over 20 hours. Funny you mention Heartsore! His WW found his thread and used it in court.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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OMG, now when you check who's online - we are all reading a "list of who's online". I know I am feeling paranoid; quite a while back some one thought that WH and POSOW were reading my thread. I didn't think so. Mainly because I had a keylogger installed and never saw any mention of that in the emails. Still, so sorry Hope for the continued trouble you have to put up with. Just remember, everyone is here for you. Wayturds and their worthless POS affair partners $u@k.
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"I dare you to find some time and some place to be silent for longer than usual; a few moments, a few minutes, a few hours. Listen to your heart, listen to your soul; and most importantly, listen to the silence to see what it sounds like and how it speaks to you."
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You had a great thread. Ask the mods to check, then make a choice. Maybe the name of the thread could be changed?
Me:BW Dday:12/31/09-Found MB 01/03/10 3DstepChildren24&20 PlanA:01/03/10 PlanB:03/25/10 D final 11/15/10
"I dare you to find some time and some place to be silent for longer than usual; a few moments, a few minutes, a few hours. Listen to your heart, listen to your soul; and most importantly, listen to the silence to see what it sounds like and how it speaks to you."
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*sniff* I miss the pig picture.
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Sorry to hear about the threat to your thread, Hope. I know that the Z did read here during my Plan B and I had considered discontinuing my posts.
It stinks to lose all of that history. It really is helpful to have those threads that are longstanding. A lot of good advice and healing happens on those threads and sometimes gives people coming here for help the medicine they need to get through another day.
Chrisner, Wayzilla looks just lovely in that picture!
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Chrisner, Wayzilla looks just lovely in that picture! Ahh...... I don't know. WayZ is stick thin. But as she continues to dye her hair red we can find her in Audubon's Great Book of Wayward Identification under the Red Crested Mattress Thrasher.Wow! The legs really are close. Besides, the pig has a ring on and WayZ is still waiting for The One Ring from Gollum.
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Besides, the pig has a ring on and WayZ is still waiting for The One Ring from Gollum. Well, it's an honest mistake. Red Crested Mattress Thrasher
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Hi MBers, Thanks for letting me know that my thread was useful to others in spite of not saving my M. acanta and lousy golfer, I remember when I was lurking at the beginning also spending hours reading posts (Queenie comes to mind) for hours on end. Melody thanks for the suggestion about the moderators. Answered the questions that I had and think it was a good idea to post to the "lurker" cough cough. Chrisner that bird is too pretty. Missed the wedding pig also. I had planned on blowing it up as a wedding present. TGIF. Can't get better than that today.
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years D17, D30 alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08 Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also) H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08 Plan B 1/09 D final 12/09
Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."
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Hope, I would give it a few days. I agree with Lousy Golfer that if this person had been PP you would hear something pretty soon. No way she could take that stuff without....ummm...squeeling like a pig. Bear in mind that screen name has not been back since that I have seen, at least in the viewable screen names. If all stays clear for a while perhaps you can get the old thread hung back up where it belongs. It's sad to see large threads dissappear. Chrisner that bird is too pretty. If Way-Z did not dye her hair the natural color would be more silver than this birds back and wings. In that case you would have to turn to page 73 in Audubon's Great Book of Wayward Identification and look for the Silver Capped **** Gobbler.
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I also read many threads beginning to end when I first came here. Heck, they're better than some novels I've read. But this one was too weird. Picked Hope's thread out of the hundreds here the first day? And hers wasn't even on page one that day. Too suspicious.
But I do agree that you will know in short order if it was XWH or his ho. They won't be able to keep quiet about it.
BS - me 56 XWH - 57
12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.
6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.
9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented WH wants nothing to do with me
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Don't insult the poor pig, she does look lovely...PP is just, well..
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
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Don't insult the poor pig, she does look lovely...PP is just, well.. If it was PP she will spend most of the time thinking about what "PP" stands for hhhhmmmm what would hope nickname me... Pretty Peach Perfect Pair Pleasurable Person Pyscho Pomeranian (oops how did that slip in) Makes me almost wish she was reading this.
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years D17, D30 alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08 Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also) H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08 Plan B 1/09 D final 12/09
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*sniff* I miss the pig picture. I love this picture.....so fitting.
Me:BW Dday:12/31/09-Found MB 01/03/10 3DstepChildren24&20 PlanA:01/03/10 PlanB:03/25/10 D final 11/15/10
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I cannot believe you guys are insulting perfectly adorable pigs and birds....
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