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at this point i have lost hope!
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Me BS 34
WH 36
D-Day 5/1/10
Entering plan A 6/1/10
3 Kids
No longer an army of 1
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Lisa123prpe,
Okay just brush yourself off and start again, Plan A your husband for 3 weeks, all giver no taker......
Then tell him that he must decide what he will do, if he choses to not work on the marriage then you give him the Plan B letter and go dark....
No half way anymore, control yourself, work on yourself and let him come to you.
Give it time, don't talk to him, ask him to go through someone else if he has anything to discuss with you, that you need the space and time.....
BW 56
WH 57
Married 25 years, live together for 2, dated 2 years before that.....
DS 23, DS 25
D-Day Nov 23/09
NC Mar 1/10
Working on Recovery
Grateful for finding Marriage Builders
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Sorry to see your plan A sap you so much. I would suggest jessi's advice and do a very short very powerful plan A, get your ducks in a row for plan B and execute it. the plan B is for your benifit so you do not have to go through this type of torture. An extended plan A builds resentment and depression to the point that you feel like you are now. Letting yourself be tortured is destroying you and your marriage quicker. Please be kind to yourself and give yourself a break.
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