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I've been single for so long after being married to a man who left me deeply hurt. From what he said, in his fog, before leaving, it had been a long time since he even thought I was a one cow wife. I know I'm worth all those cows. But, one of these days, I hope someone else knows it and shows me that they understand that. 
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Bumping because I think I am an 8 cow wife again 
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Good for you Lil'......Now me, I just feel like the cow..
BW me-41 WH -39 DS - 9 married 12 Yrs together(?) 18 yrs when A discovered DDay aug 2007 found MB dec 2007 Moved out april 2008 still seeing OW Plan B Okay I fixed the ages, it was looking screwy. 
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i have never posted before so i'm not sure how to do it. I'v been reading since May. Husband had an EA affair ended it in May, D day for me was April 11. i did everything in my power to meet his EN, went on anti-anxiety meds, seeing a therepist. I wanted to be able to withstand this whole mess. Married for 25 years, together for 28, 3 kids, daughter getting married in Dec., son in college, son in high school. After reading this story i now understand why so hard to move forward. i always felt like an 8 cow wife with him, now i am looking at an empty pasture. he wants to move forward and i can't seem to do it lately. this is why. how do you continue to side step the landminds, and still make it thru without looking like and feeling like a pow.
Me:BS-47
Him:WH-45
married 25 yrs
DD:22:married Dec 09
DS:20
DS:17
EA:Feb 09-May 09
Contact thru Sept.09
Nc in place Nov 09
trying to recover since then
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BSB, I'm so sorry you have to be here. However, you came to the right place. I hope you make it.
You may be better off starting your own thread to tell your story, and ask for help.
SS
I think sometimes about all the pain in the world. I hope we can ease that here, even if only a little bit.
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There was a movie made a long time ago about Johnny Lingo. You may find it interesting. Johnny Lingo Movie
I think sometimes about all the pain in the world. I hope we can ease that here, even if only a little bit.
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I know I am an 8 cow wife.
I was treated like one, til I wasn't and then....not being treated like one, I proved my meddle. I proved to be one heck of a woman in adversity, I still am proving more and more each day that I truly am an 8 cow wife (whether my WH re-commits to treating me like one or not).
Our worth is never defined by others. It is defined by us.
I am an 8 cow wife. Maybe even a 9 or 10
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BUMP 'Cos I AM an 8 cow wife
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For hoping that someday, I too will be an 8-Cow Wife.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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I think you have a lot of offer.
If Mr to-be-karmarose doesnt offer 8 cows, he's not worthy.
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Shortly after DDay I read this and sobbed. Now I read it and know I can be an 8 cow wife regardless.
Me (BW): 35
Married 1999 with no kids, DDay July 2011, OC born September 2012, Divorce final November 2012.
WXH (Gollum) is corrupted by his A, and now forever bound to it.
Plan B has set me free.
"Mourn the man he was. Know the man he is."
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Almost 4 years since D-day and I actually have 5 cows. I have 5 sheep as well but I don't think that counts
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Shortly after DDay I read this and sobbed. Now I read it and know I can be an 8 cow wife regardless. You can do it, Caracal! 
D-Day 2-10-2009
Fully Recovered and Better Than Ever!
Thank you Marriage Builders!
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