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Ive exposed the affair to everyone i can. She still dont think she is having an affair since she moved out.
She calls and txt me for weird reasons and is talking to me a bit more. How much conversation should i have with her. In her mind She feels like we are in high school and she can just break up with me and see who she wants. We are both 28 4 kids. OM is 21 yr old kid. Just need to know how much i should talk to her. Still in plan A.

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Originally Posted by Fishingking20
Ive exposed the affair to everyone i can. She still dont think she is having an affair since she moved out.
She calls and txt me for weird reasons and is talking to me a bit more. How much conversation should i have with her. In her mind She feels like we are in high school and she can just break up with me and see who she wants. We are both 28 4 kids. OM is 21 yr old kid. Just need to know how much i should talk to her. Still in plan A.

Please tell us exactly how you exposed the affair and to whom? What happened, exactly?


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I told all my family. I work with her so I told all her friends there. Her family knows. I did this 5 days ago. Since then the OM put photos of them being together on facebook. We had some big fights after she left when I found out bout him. She left me 2 months ago. Was talking to him 3 days after she left. I found out from my kids. She calls me for silly kid questions and sometimes talks for a sec or 2. Then we get off phone. Believe it or not its more than we haf talked in weeks since I found out.

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Go to plan B they are flaunting the affair right infront of you.

Get her a plan B letter
No calls
No texts
No facebook
block everything!
Find an IM

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Ok 2 questions first one is our last 2 months have been all fighting after she left. Should I wait a couple weeks before plan b so her last memories are good ones.

And second how should plan b letter look?

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Ya it might be a good idea to work plan A I thought you were in plan A.

I would plan A her for 3 weeks then plan B when the 3 weeks are up.

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Originally Posted by Fishingking20
I told all my family. I work with her so I told all her friends there. Her family knows. I did this 5 days ago. Since then the OM put photos of them being together on facebook. We had some big fights after she left when I found out bout him. She left me 2 months ago. Was talking to him 3 days after she left. I found out from my kids. She calls me for silly kid questions and sometimes talks for a sec or 2. Then we get off phone. Believe it or not its more than we haf talked in weeks since I found out.

Have you exposed to their employer/CEO?


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