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Ditto the power of prayer...my karma angel paid a visit today.

I am in the creditor's room he pales at the sight of me. He sits his rotund body down (close to 50 pounds of added tonnage from D day) He is sweating, he is bloated, his stomach is rumbling that I could hear it.

Felt sorry for some of the people there that were in dire straits not self made destruction.

They call him to the table and I join him. He looks like a trapped animal. He is sworn in under oath and it begins. Start off with basics and then ask have your circumstances recently changed and he stutters he got married. Ask the date and then said did you have a reception? Yes and then the auditor starts going for the jugular.
Well how did you pay for it with only $300 in the bank. He tells them he took some money from 401K and so does PP.
Asks did he also buy her an engagement ring. He sputters (yes sputters) and the auditor asks him when did you buy it he says over a year and half ago. I chime in and said but we were still M then? I ask can we get a receipt. The auditor says you can't but we will.

I ask how he spent DD money for car. He says I paid medical bills and other bills. Open the can of worms please? I then ask well didn't you take 3 trips to Vegas this year in March, July and October. He says well "I deserve a vacation". And I chime in well I am working 2 jobs and want you to honor your divorce decree and pay the loan he defaulted on.

He then got questioned about his 10 day trip to Vegas and he said it was their honeymoon too. The auditor asks didn't he take into consideration all the debt he had.

It was not good for him.

Bottom line: PP now has to go in and provide cc debt, savings, and her income to be included in his bankruptcy (she will go bananas over this), He has to provide information about hidden assets and his financials need major work.

My work is done, I get up from the table and waiting for the elevator. XH turns corner as I am getting into the elevator. I turn to him and say "take the next one" and close the door.

Not a happy night at the pig pen. Will be back in court next month

Thank you for your prayers. they worked

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Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09

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OMG Hope!! Busted... That is awesome! Bet he didn't see that one coming.

That must have been a bittersweet moment for you. Just remember that the person sitting at that table wasn't your H. It was WH, a creature you have no desire to know.

Way to go and stand up for your family and what's right.


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Well Played, not only did the K-Bus, run him over it went around the block for a second pass.


All I can think of is Homer Simpson running and looking over his shoulder panting.

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Thanks for the well wishes and the power of prayer

PM you are so right that the person at the table was truly not my H but the ugly alien.

When I told the auditor that I have continued to pay the joint loan that XH defaulted on because I needed to try and keep my credit good otherwise I would not be able to get loans for DD for college. For a flash his alien face dropped away and I saw a look of remorse and concern and then poof the ugly alien was back.

Somewhere deep in the muck of drowning in the booze, living with PP in the pig pen, not seeing his girls and the shame and the guilt the real H is buried deep. Can he ever crawl back up I don't know but I can't save him and he does not want my help. He has turned from everything including God.

I can't get the vision out of my head of Homer Simpson running and panting....





Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09

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Hope, I am so pleased to see this. It is about time we see a little justice around here for an active wayward.

You did so well standing up for you and DD. clap

Congratulations, friend. May many more successes come you and DDs way!

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Hope,

Wow, just wow! You did really well! And to be able to say what you did with a third party present, just priceless!

I hope it ends well in your favor,

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1st PA - 1985, 1st known EA - 1992/1993
2nd PA - 06/02 to 11/04
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Hope, it is AMAZING how the waywards think they are gonna get away. Good ALWAYS triumphs over EVIL, even if it takes some time.

I am praying for you still.


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DSx2: 10,12
DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09
Plan B Dec18/09
Personal R in works
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Praying for walls and doors. Thanx MM

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Originally Posted by Pepperband
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Perfect! I LUV this imagery! Really nails it. WS honestly believe they're "all that" until reality sets in... physically, emotionally and spiritually. I don't care what they portray outwardly, there's a sickness within that will eventually take its toll unless they stop and turn around.


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WOW.... now that was AWESOME!!!!! i can't wait to hear part two of court.... LOL..... dummm de dummmm... dummmm!


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Part 2 will be in December...

Will be there wearing my shield of armor to fight the good fight.


Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09

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Shield of armor was the sermon yesterday. The gospel even mentioned not to prepare your defense because God will give you the words. Sounds like God's ready to open up a can of whoop a$$ on these waywards.

After you, girlie!!!

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Way to go Hope, keep fighting the good fight and know that you are strong, beautiful, full of kindness, and grace.

{{{Hugs to you}}}


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PlanB:03/25/10
D final 11/15/10

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H- 3to the third...

OK I know you are a 'cooker.
What are the Thanksgiving menu plans?

I am thinking about something totally crazy and new. If it works out I always feel triumphant , sp?


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Thanksgiving going to my neighbors and bringing my "famous" roasted potatoes. My secret recipe from Lipton.

8 pounds cut up potatoes
3 onion soup mix packages
olive oil
cooking bags

throw it all together and cook 40 minutes. Everyone loves them...lol


This year I will also be helping a friend that started a new tradition for herself after her D (yes from A). She owns a pizza place and she cooks a bunch of turkeys and all the trimmings and serves dinner in a parking lot to the homeless. Last year they gave out 200 dinners. That will keep me busy and not dwell on the past.

Barbie cat what are you planning? You have my interest....

Blessings.



Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09

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Thanksgiving going to my neighbors and bringing my "famous" roasted potatoes. My secret recipe from Lipton.

8 pounds cut up potatoes
3 onion soup mix packages
olive oil
cooking bags

throw it all together and cook 40 minutes. Everyone loves them...lol


This year I will also be helping a friend that started a new tradition for herself after her D (yes from A). She owns a pizza place and she cooks a bunch of turkeys and all the trimmings and serves dinner in a parking lot to the homeless. Last year they gave out 200 dinners. That will keep me busy and not dwell on the past.

Barbie cat what are you planning? You have my interest....

Blessings.



Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09

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Aww! I want to help the homeless, too! What a great idea!!

Well, for me;
Fried Turkey... done -- almost froze my H to death guarding the "cooker".
New York Strip and King Crab Legs...done
Smoked Turkey, duck and smoked cherry chicken....done
Turducken... with all 4 stuffings and sweet potato dressing..done
Standing prime rib roast... done.
Spiral ham...yum and done!
(shoot! I am running out of animals to eat!)
Herb stuffed Leg of Lamb..... done
Orange glazed cornish game hen (bacon dressing)...done.

Tonight..100 year old chocolate cake, for birthday party.
I am not kidding, I bake and roast so often, the digital "3" does not work on my oven anymore!..no 325, 333,350,375 380 or 390.

Let's not forget..
Home smoked Salmon. I even caught that sucker!....done

Let methinks about this matter.

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And always roast turkey.

I have to take my 24 lb. monster out of the freezer to the fridge on Saturday.
Brine his a$$ Tues eve until Thurs morning.


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Originally Posted by barbiecat
Aww! I want to help the homeless, too! What a great idea!!

Well, for me;
Fried Turkey... done -- almost froze my H to death guarding the "cooker".
New York Strip and King Crab Legs...done
Smoked Turkey, duck and smoked cherry chicken....done
Turducken... with all 4 stuffings and sweet potato dressing..done
Standing prime rib roast... done.
Spiral ham...yum and done!
(shoot! I am running out of animals to eat!)
Herb stuffed Leg of Lamb..... done
Orange glazed cornish game hen (bacon dressing)...done.

Tonight..100 year old chocolate cake, for birthday party.
I am not kidding, I bake and roast so often, the digital "3" does not work on my oven anymore!..no 325, 333,350,375 380 or 390.

Let's not forget..
Home smoked Salmon. I even caught that sucker!....done

Let methinks about this matter.
And how many people are you serving...and what is your address... rotflmao


Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09

Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."
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