Hi there,
So glad you have landed on your feet and moving in a positive direction with your life.......
Now lets keep your heart open for new adventures..........make new friends, enjoy the kids......
Smile every day, be proud and know that you can't be responsible for anyone else,
God bless.........
jessi

(((((NP)))))

I am sorry that this has turned out this way for you.

I am concerned about one thing though. Why are you still communicating with him? I have witnessed my sister dealing with her XWH and it is HORRIBLE and they have been divorced for almost 3 YEARS. It only gets harder to deal with an unrepentant wayward. I would suggest that you get into at MOST email exchanges, but I would most definitely use an IM.

Take care hun.

NP,

Thanks for the update, was worried about you! Sometimes when BS are quite it means that they aren't doing things the MB way and don't want to here it. I am glad you have taken a step for you, and ultimately your children.

Hang in there and keep us posted. Let us know how your kids are doing.

ba

Thanks everyone!

Well, our contact is limited to the children. Which is why I'm surprised he can still find ways to be mean, but he does it!

DD is doing okay. She went through a hard phase where she was crying for him to be home all the time. But she seems to like OW ( ) and she is always quite happy to go over there with her dad. She still talks like we're a family but she seems to be adjusting okay. Hopefully. She is getting happier again.

DS, unfortunately, is another story. Well, in his relationship with his dad I mean. He's the happiest, sweetest, most mellow and charming baby, no trouble at all! A complete joy to be around. But his dad doesn't seem to care too much about him, other than treating him like you would a zoo exhibit ("Hello, son, how are you? Well...I'll just move onto something else now...") WH barely pays him any attention, never attempts to spend any real time with him when he's in town, and has zero bond with him. He never takes him overnight like he does DD, but that's becuase I fought that, and said he was too young to go there overnight, esp since he barely knows his dad. I hope they can form a bond as he gets older, for his sake....but if not, it's f'ing WH'S loss.

Anyway, yes, I'm doing well! The sun is back out (literally and figuratively) and I'm looking forward to seeing what my future holds now!

Oh, YAY!! NP, I am so glad you checked in! I've wondered often about you! You, my friend, did your best. And you will recover yourself with your two kiddoes.

Your POSH treats you like that because he wants you to dislike him. It would make it ever so much easier on his conscience if that were the case. If you must be in contact, don't rise to his bait and give him any satisfaction. Rise above that. What am I saying - you're already far above him.

I understand about the triggering emotion of posting here, but do try to keep us up to date with what's going on in your life.

NP

Exactly right.

Thanks for coming back w/ an update, NP. You sound like you're in a much better place - take care of you and those kiddos!

Oh, I do dislike him now. But to his face I am ever so nice. Not overly nice, I mean, I'm not a doormat, but I am civil and strong and polite. I don't want to give him the satisfaction of having me be all mean to him and letting him feel justified in his actions!

Hey NP!!

Happy to see you back with an update. Sorry to hear where things have ended up, but I do believe that it is what is best for you and the kiddos. You sound really great! You sound really strong! Give yourself a big old pat on the back because you deserve it. You did everything you could but your WH is just a lost cause unfortunately. His loss. You are going to rebuild a better life then you ever had before with WH. You will have the wisdom of your current experiences and the knowledge of MB to help you find another man that will treat you like the awesome woman that you are. Your future looks very bright NP. Of this I am certain.

Don't be such a stranger!!

Oh NP, I was thinking about you the other day! I'm glad you came back to give an update. Definitely sorry how things ended up, but you did all that you could and I know you will have an awesome future with you and your kiddos.

Hugs!

The kids sound ADORABLE, and I'll bet that precious baby is getting really huge and walking all over by now.

I'm back!! I'm thinking it's time I moved over to the Divorcing forums though....

I've survived. I hope all of you do as well. Love to all of you who were so supportive and helpful through all of this. It was really the only thing at times that kept me going.

Take care, all of you!!

Hi NP!

Glad to hear you are doing well and welcome back!

ba