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Originally Posted By: SickofLimbo
Here's another one...

"I do."



rotflmao Good one...


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still seeing OW
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You guys really got me wondering if this is fog talk ???


"Oh my ..... , My H said the exact same thing to me 1 week ago today.

About why she didn't wear her wedding ring.
"I'll wear them when I feel like I'm in a marriage."


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When I used to ask my H why he didnt wear his wedding ring...he said:

"When I am at work I am 20 and single."....I am an idiot for thinking he was only kidding!!!!!!!


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Originally Posted By: 8thgraders
You guys really got me wondering if this is fog talk ???


"Oh my ..... , My H said the exact same thing to me 1 week ago today.

About why she didn't wear her wedding ring.
"I'll wear them when I feel like I'm in a marriage."



I believe it to be in my case. My WW had been using it for almost a year. She stopped about a month ago because I think her IC told her to wear her ring to avoid conflict with me while waiting for the D to move forward.

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He said "OW thinks your pretty"
!?!


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My WH told me I had too much time on my hands and I think too much

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"You need to start saving up money to pay for (our son's) health insurance; I have to start thinking about myself, now." (Oh, really? When did you decide you weren't going to be his father anymore?)

"We went to the motel but we didn't have sex; we just lay side by side and talked all night. I was really depressed, and she saved my life!" (Wow, thanks, OW!)

"I don't have to move out; I can sleep in the spare room, and it'll be like we're separated..." (I don't think so...)

"I can't move out, I don't have anywhere to go!" (Not my problem)

"You could have gotten a cheaper apartment!" (griping because he had to pay temporary support.....and I got the apartment under a program for low income people!)

"Evidently your mother thinks talking to someone on the phone is adultery." (Well, combined with all the sex, it would appear reasonable.)

(as the separation wore on) "Why can't I come by and spend the evening with you? It isn't that late....wait, you don't want to see me, do you!??!??" (Good for you picking up on that subtle hint, Sparky.)




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Married 34 yrs
DD 27 and 30, DS 19 (disabled)
after 2nd DDay, filed for D Dec 09 (me)
6-6-10 WH moved in with OW
7-3-10 WH returned home
taking recovery one day at a time

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Originally Posted By: KoffeeNTears
He said "OW thinks your pretty"
!?!


OW said this to me before I found out about the affair. "You have the most beautiful face I've ever seen!" (double edged compliment - what about the rest of me? lol) Oh to go back to that moment....what I'd do to her now....


Me: BW, 27
Him: WH, 29
DD 4
DS 1
Married 07/25/09
A began end of 08/2009 (possibly sooner)
D-Day: 3/31/10
2nd D-Day: 4/9/2010
3rd D-Day: 4/21/10

Plan B (shortlived as it was): 18/05/10
WH decides to work on marriage: 20/05/10
False Recovery, Back to Plan B: 13/08/10

Filed for D Feb 2011, D April 2012

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Hehehe, this thread has made me feel SO much better! laugh

One of my favorites from my FWH was, "People lie, it's just reality." How silly of me to expect otherwise!

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Originally Posted By: KoffeeNTears
He said "OW thinks your pretty"
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Because they always "affair down". She OW was showing her insecurity about her attractiveness.


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"I would not let you give me oral sex because I was with the OM about 10 minutes prior."


O.o ooooouuuuucchhhh I think that's the worst I've seen yet.


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Bumping for Mitzi.


D-Day 2-10-2009
Fully Recovered and Better Than Ever!
Thank you Marriage Builders!

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"... for better or worse, in sickness and health, forsaking all others, as long as we both shall live."


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Wow, rereading old posts of mine bring back so many memories... grumble

So, this is from my generally de-fogged H the other day - "You didn't set that up, right? [The POSOW "tempting" him]. She's not like a plant or something?"

Really? I would put myself through all the pain, sorrow and misery, Plan B and an almost divorce just to "check" if you were being faithful? banghead ugh.

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I think I remember a poster who's husband and mistress wantedto move her in the house, "sister wife" style.

Her husband in frustration said to her, something allong the lines of..
"Why can't you guys just learn to SHARE me?"

who the heck was that? That is about the worst wayspeak/waythought


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Oh, what fog-babble do I pick -- there were so many good ones!! We had socialized with OW and her boyfriend before the affair and apparently she told my XWH that she and her boyfriend had considered seeeing if we were into swapping?! I guess she decided not to swap, just go with sleeping with my WH and let me find my own partner!!


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D-day:6/30/08 & 10/25/08
WH moved out 9/15/08
D: 1/15/10

"So take that look out of here, it doesn't fit you, because it's happened, doesn't mean you've been discarded." -- Big Country from "In a Big Country."
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Wait, I forgot to mention that she is bi-sexual -- maybe she meant me?! Well, since she couldn't have me, I guess my WH was a good second choice! wink


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D-day:6/30/08 & 10/25/08
WH moved out 9/15/08
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"no i am not having an affair"

"it was like a vacation"


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DD1 2.24.11
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NC letter to OW2 april
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WH: How can I be with someone that is so disrespectful. How could you invade my privacy like that. Those photos (the two of them in the hot tub together) you found are private property, so you have stolen property now.

... the day I officially confirmed his "friend" relationship was so much more ...

Here is one from the other day, he is mad that I am in Plan B and that I exposed this to everyone ...

I guess for a while I thought that you could handle this without turning this into a vendetta. I still belief that you are a good mother to our children. Just because you and I don't have that special bond any longer doesn't mean that we have to destroy each other. I wish you could see that and accept the end of our relationship without feeling the need that you have to assassinate my character ...

It was really only a 2 minute question, but it took STBXWH about 30 minutes to ask the question ... here it is in a nutshell

... I am calling you because OW and I want to take trip to Portugal. First it was supposed to be a big group of us(YEAH Right), but now it is only the two of us redflag redflag. My commander is going to call you for permission because they do not think it is right for a married man and single woman to do this... Will you tell him it is okay?"

After this phone call my entire world changed--Infidelity was Introduced!!!!

Sorry - they keep coming to me!!!

STBXWH: "You emotionally divorced me years ago."
me: "Really, because I don't remember doing that." I think he is being coached from my MIL puke

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