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What are the tools for dealing with resentment? What happens that you are so angry for the way your spouse has treated you? How do you get past it?
BW/FWW 34 (Harmony)
BH/WH 36
Feb 2009 - Affair starts, physical for 9 days on business trip.
Mar 2009 - Separate from H, live alone
Apr 2009 - realise I have made big mistake and attempt reconciliation with H, establish NC with OM.
Jun 2009 - H physical and emotional serial A start right upto present day.
Jul 2009 - NC with OM broken and becomes EA
Mar 2010 - H reads email and discovers A
Jul 2010 - Discover MB
Aug 2010 - Plan A starts
Oct 2010 - Plan B starts
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H,
I have come to the conclusion that some people are just cruel.
Dictionary.com:
cru�el   /ˈkruəl/ Show Spelled
[kroo-uhl] Show IPA
�adjective, -er, -est.
1. willfully or knowingly causing pain or distress to others.
2. enjoying the pain or distress of others: the cruel spectators of the gladiatorial contests.
3. causing or marked by great pain or distress: a cruel remark; a cruel affliction.
4. rigid; stern; strict; unrelentingly severe.
Is that not your WH(mine too)?
The WHY and HOW COULD HE are not important. SOME people just are.
These kind of people can never be truly happy. Not with themselves, not with others, not with the world.
You and I my friend(may I call you 'friend') KNOW happiness.
Someday, someday, we will be truly happy again.
Have faith.
BS/ME 47 Met on blind date
WH 46(Alcoholic,drugs?)
DS1:18 DS2:15
1st A EA9/07 PA10/07 NC11/07
2nd A EA/PA-10/2010
Found out- 11/20/2010
He moved out-1/1/2011 same apt.cmplx as OW(&her kids)
PlanB-1/1/11(broken)
NEW PB-2/11 Taking it one day at a time
There are two kinds of people in the world: Those who say to God, "Thy will be done" and those to whom God says, "Alright then, have it your way." ~C .S.Lewis
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What are the tools for dealing with resentment? What happens that you are so angry for the way your spouse has treated you? How do you get past it? Reconciliation happens. Recovery happens. Get there first, then worry about the resentment. KK? 
"An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field." - Niels Bohr
"Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons." - Michael Shermer
"Fair speech may hide a foul heart." - Samwise Gamgee LOTR
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H,
I have come to the conclusion that some people are just cruel.
Dictionary.com:
cru�el   /ˈkruəl/ Show Spelled
[kroo-uhl] Show IPA
�adjective, -er, -est.
1. willfully or knowingly causing pain or distress to others.
2. enjoying the pain or distress of others: the cruel spectators of the gladiatorial contests.
3. causing or marked by great pain or distress: a cruel remark; a cruel affliction.
4. rigid; stern; strict; unrelentingly severe.
Is that not your WH(mine too)?
The WHY and HOW COULD HE are not important. SOME people just are.
These kind of people can never be truly happy. Not with themselves, not with others, not with the world.
You and I my friend(may I call you 'friend') KNOW happiness.
Someday, someday, we will be truly happy again.
Have faith. Sweet However and unfortunately we BS's have had a serious blow to all that we trusted and had faith in. I come here to read quotes and postings such as yours to remind myself of faith. I also think that the how and why questions are like a car accident, you don't want to stare - but we all look. We know we won't get the answer to those questions - but they are always lurking.
Me:BW
Dday:12/31/09-Found MB 01/03/10
3DstepChildren24&20
PlanA:01/03/10
PlanB:03/25/10
D final 11/15/10
"I dare you to find some time and some place to be silent for longer than usual; a few moments, a few minutes, a few hours. Listen to your heart, listen to your soul; and most importantly, listen to the silence to see what it sounds like and how it speaks to you."
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