My wife has left me and has moved in with another man that she meet over the internet. I have retaind an atty and filed for divorice but my atty has droped the ball and did not have her served before she had left the state. My wife left here taking my 16 year old daughter with her and keeps makeing up lies about me the reason she has told everyone she left this town was that i pulled a gun on her and she need to leave infear for her life and of coarce this is all lies and the lies will just not stop. All i want now is to get out of the marrage and move on but she thinks she is intitaled to things that are in this house that i need to sell. I am having a hard time just makeing the mortage because i have lost my job of 13 years. i tried to return to work after the fist mounth she had left but could not keep it and now i find myself looking for a new job and i am haveing no luck i really dont want to find one just because i do not what to support another man. She is the one who has gave up on this marrage and i was willing to work on it before i found out about this man but all i want is to be done with this without giving her another dime. She has made this choice and needs to live with it. So am i wrong in not giving her anything and selling what i can to pay the bills that she has helped create. I am new at this site and was refered by a friend and im just looking for answers.

Hi Gary, I am sure sorry for your misery. And you are RIGHT to not give her a penny. You should not give her a cent unless you are forced by a court. I am concerned about your 16 year old daughter. Can you get her back? We know of situations where sexual predators have preyed on women with teenage daughters in order to get to the daughter. This OM of your wife's has to be a real scumbag if he is doing a married woman.

Has the affair been exposed to everyone? Your family, her family, the OM's family? Does the OM have a facebook page? Who is this loser?

I have been incontact with the ex of this thing and he has broken up other marrages. But that is other ones this is mine i i had called him when i found the phone bill and he just hung the phone up on me. I hired a pi and found out who he was and he will not answer the phone for me he is to far for me to go and is not worth it. My daughter is the with them because i would not aprove of her boyfriend that had laid his hads on her and was having sex in my house and my wife allowed it. i am at my wits end and will not give them anouther dime.

Does the OM have a facebook page? Do you know where he works?

Can you get your daughter home?

And I hope you have moved all your money and taken her name off any joint accounts so she doesn't steal your money.

I would tell EVERYONE about your wife's affair and ask them to speak to her.

You need to file for an immediate emergency hearing to have your daughter returned to the marital home. Do this immediately.

Don't let your lawyer talk you out of it either. I know a man who sat in a courtroom and wouldn't leave, even under threat of arrest, until the judge issued an order to have his kids returned to him after his wife left and took their son out of state.

File immediately and don't settle for your lawyer telling you it can't be done. It can.

he has removed his facebook page and i know where he works and have the #
My daughter is beliveing the lies and is only thinking of her self. My oldest has moved in with me and is helping me through this
I stoped all money from the start and the last joint account i close and took all the money out just before Xmas
And i am telling everyone
i have also just found a letter that was under my daughters bed that was from her boyfriend and it pretty much sad that they needed to start useing condoms and he could not buy the at walmart because his mom and dad knows everyone there but her mom was ok with what they were doing. i sent an email to her telling her i was going to forard it to her dad and his mom and dad My wifes dad needs to know what kind of mother his daughter is he was my best friend before all of this. and now i cant even talk with him

He might have just blocked YOU. CAn you have someone else sign on under their account and see if he is on there? You need to get all his contacts copy and pasted into a WORD doc.

i have had many people check he has droped it and his myspace account. but before he had droped his acount my sister was able to get into it and he was slick he has done this before. but he has never messed with me i know more about him the he thinks

His ex just told me he still has it

CAn you get a copy of his friends?

this all started for me back in april when my wife told me she did not love me like she should and that just broke my heart and i went to work the next day and only lastest a couple of hours and just broke down and had to leave work. I then went to my property in florida were her dad lives and spent a few days with him and all he could tell me its to come back and sit down and talk with her and lay it all out on the table. but before i got home i had picked her up at her friends andon the way home she told me she had been fakeing it for over a year another kick in the gut.I could not return to work i could not even get out of bed.

Gary, your marriage does not have to be over. There is a possibility this can be saved if you can follow a plan.

See, her affair with the OM is doomed. He will dump her soon enough and she will have no place to go. 95% of affairs crumble within 2 years.

The reason she told you she was not in love with you, blah, blah, blah, is because she was in a fantasy affair with the OM. The affair will be ruined soon enough when reality intrudes.

One of the best ways for you to ruin the affair is to expose to all of the OM's friends and family. I would cause as much hell for that [censored] as possible. And we can help you do it if you can get a list of his facebook friends.

I am very worried about your daughter, though. This scumbag might be a sexual predator.

i have found out this has been going on sence 07 and i have tracked down phone bills sence 09 where she was calling him and he was calling her at all hours day and night.Also found out i was on a fishing trip for a weeken and she had a hair show in Pcola that weekend he flew in from Cali to meet her. tish was way before i knew anything was wrong. I am feeling so much anger now for the both of them. I would have gone to the end of the earth for her and she has done this.

i will work on that list one way or another

A good way to cook his goose is to send a private message to all his facebook friends and family informing them that he is a scumbag who is with a married woman. This will cause huge conflict in their affair because it will be harder for him to introduce your wife to his family and friends.

The letter should go something like this:

Dear friend of JoeScumbag,

It grieves me to write this letter but I believe all of his friends and family should be aware that Joe is having an affair with my wife, Sally Smith. According to the evidence, this affair has been taking place since 2007. My wife has left me in order to pursue her affair with Joe.

Sally and I have been married for 25 years and have one teenaged daughter who has been dragged into this affair.

I would ask that you use your influence with Joe to persuade him to end his affair with my wife. You should also watch your own wives around him because she is no friend to marriage.

I would appreciate it if someone would notify his parents and ask them to call me at xxx-www-xxxx.
Thank you, BW

She has been blocked but i will try ather ways

All you need is a list of his facebook friends. Then you go to each person's page and send them a private message. Space them out 1 minute apart so facebook does not shut you off for flooding.

The way i understand it is they are open that she is married but its the lies they are telling about me that they are telling everyone. she is just makeing me out as to being a monster in ther eyes. These people dont know me at all and i really dont care its just the truth that needs to comeout about these two and my daughter is mixed up in this.

You only know what liars have told you. i have no doubt they have told numerous lies about you and your marriage. That is why you need to get the truth out.