Well, its been about a month since the news and things have settled down a bit in my head. I can see that my wife is very sorry for her actions and loves me. I think. Of course, you can never be sure in this life. I know this is natural thinking after something like this happens and can only be fixed with time but I had to say what I think. She is acting much different and more remorseful. On the one hand, it could be that she is kind of desperate because the baby is going to be born in 3 months and she lives with her mother and doesn't make so much money. She has told me over and over that she can't stand the lover and only now truly realizes how good I am to her. I think wow...it took this to happen for you to understand that!? Anyway, she tells me that she loves me very much and she wants to show me how happy we can be together if I would just give her a chance.

Again, this would be our first child together but she assures me that she doesn't want to be with the OM. We live in Ukraine and he lives in Russia. It's quite a ways away and from what she says she has told him that it's over between them and she is back with me. Also, she told him that it's my baby for sure and she knows this from the due date. So, there would be no potential problems with him being involved in our lives if the child were not to be mine. She would put my name on the birth certificate and he would have zero rights here. Also, one of you was talking about child support or something. Let's say that she did cheat again and we got divorced and my name is on the birth certificate I can just leave and go to the USA. They can't touch me there. I know my wife and she is not the type of person to pursue that. She really is a good person. She has a good heart. Of course I am blaming myself when I say the following but I was a jerk many times too her during our marriage. We had some big blowups. Anyway, she is willing and ready to move to the USA when the child is a little older and I am ready to go. I am still unsure but am leaning toward giving her another shot. Currently, she is living with her mother and I am staying with friends. We have talked about renting a place now until the baby is born in March and then going to the states when the baby is a little older. I can honestly say I that I do see a change in her. We have been spending time together a few times during the week and for the most part they have been quite nicely spent. The recurring thoughts of imagining her with the OM are diminishing so I hope that what I read about that with time it would get much easier is true. I must that I have a VERY good memory and I would say have an obsessive type personality. I don't think that helps in this situation. A few days after the initial shock I drank quite a bit but now realize that will not help anything so am not drinking. Actually, I have been praying more and reading the bible. I know it's normal to never know if the WS is telling the truth about being sorry and all but I guess time will tell. If she messes up again I am out but I am not going to be like the KGB and interrogate her all the time. I can't live like that and don't have the energy for it. Time will tell I guess. Thanks for the all the advice and support. It's appreciated.

i am sorry but i don't believe your w for a minute. tihngs just don't add up.

1st she won't move to the US and now she wants you on the b-cert and is ready to go as soon as the baby is born.

my guess is that as soon as she gets here with you BAM you will find yourself in divirce court and a big cs payment.

2nd she tells you what a hunk the om is and now "she" tells you that "she" told him to stay away

she was a liar once so what is keeping her from lieing now

i don't take her for a fool but i think she is taking you for one

be very careful with this, very careful

She is going to have her "anchor baby" in the US at your expense.