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Thinking about you. Hope things are better.


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So whats up Writer? Are you feeling more on top of this?

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Writer?


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Abandoned Feb 17th 08, D-Day Aprl 27th 08.
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The FOG is clear, and we are in recovery.
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Ms. Writer,

Please, please take care of You right now! Whether it's seeking encouragement from your priest, minister, or rabbi, seeing your physician, or even referring yourself to the nearest emergency room, please do it. The situation with your son can wait until you are restored.

You shall have my prayers.

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Hey, writer.... U O K?


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I'm still here. Just taking a bit of a break. Trying to regroup. Taking a long hard look at some of the decisions I've made in my life and their ramifications. I'll update more when I can.

Thanks everyone for checking in and caring.


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Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.
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Hey writer, glad to hear from ya

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Thanks CP.

CWMI, as usual, I have no idea what you're talking about.


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Ms. Writer,

I am happy that you seem more 'with it' now - seem less despondent.

Going to say something to you, whether you like it not, Do not ever allow yourself to get to this point again where you rely on people on the Internet to attemtp to save your hide! If you ever again feel you are going to kill yourself then alert your H, call your local police, or call a suicide hotline. This is not fun and games Ms. Writer, where one day you feel that low, and the next day feeling simply like you have 'taken abit of a break'. You had me emotional and very worried about you, and I am sure that is true of many others here. I was trained and worked a hotline back in the 1980's and while I have heard it all I am still concerned about you. Major question - what is your H now doing to even recognize your feelings now and help? It seems to me that your H should take the lead in dealing with your 16-year old son now, and it doesn't seem like he is doing it.

I know this is harsh Ms. Writer. I respect you so much.

Tomorrow I am going to have Char here and we are going out for a great dinner for our 42nd wedding anniversary. She is in a nursing home Ms. Writer, and two weeks ago I was informed by her counselor that she attempted suicide. So, if you think that you are carrying Christ's cross on your own in this society, please think again. Char has Me - her husband - yeah a guy who has several times fallen off his white horse - but, I will stand up for her and protect her no matter what. Ex., in the nursing home she complained to me she has not been able to sleep well because of idiotic noisy people in the next room. I know she is very sensitive in regard to getting to sleep and loss of sleep as well. I discussed this just today with her counselor, and guess what, that person was booted out today.

Ms. Writer, you cannot play games with God, yourself, or your spouse. I sincerly belive that you are hurting. The answer is to get the needed help for YOu.

I respect you a helluva lot, but you are just mindbending me now.

Please take care because you are very much valued as a person...

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It wasn't my intention to worry anyone. I just needed a little time away from the board.


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Moderator's edit:

No more comments about writer's recent posts, please. We thank you for the concern shown to her.

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Cafe Plan B link http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2182650&page=1

The ? that made recovery possible: "Which lovebuster do I do the most that hurts the worst"?

The statement that signaled my personal recovery and the turning point in our marriage recovery: "I don't need to be married that badly!"

If you're interested in saving your relationship, you'll work on it when it's convenient. If you're committed, you'll accept no excuses.
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I sincerely apologize for causing anyone to worry. I was having a panic attack when I wrote my last post on Thursday. It is something that I have struggled with my entire life. I really didn't realize how bad my last post sounded until I came on the board today and reread it, as well as everyone's responses. I have been off the board because I have been trying to deal with the situation with my son.

Again, I am sorry for what I said and I am making a concerted effort not to post anymore until I have had time to calm down after a stressful event and think things through.


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Ms. Writer,

No need at all for you to apologize - just the need to recognize that many on here are concerned about you and do care.

Kaylaandy - your comment sounds cold and uncaring - if that is an expression of your view or the moderators's view, then MB be damned! There is no moderator or no veteran here who could discourage one human being from caring about another one!

Ms. Writer, just a hug and encouragement. We here have our own tribulations, but Char is coming home for a visit tomorrow and we are going to celebrate our 42nd on Fridday. It's tough sometimes living in this world, but not too tough.

You just take care..

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Writer1,

Take your time and work with your family. I am so sorry to hear of what happened. Hang in there OK?

God Bless,

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Ms. Writer,

Kaylaandy - your comment sounds cold and uncaring - if that is an expression of your view or the moderators's view, then MB be damned! There is no moderator or no veteran here who could discourage one human being from caring about another one!


Tom

Tom, having been on the other side of this situation with a cousin who succeeded in self destruction recently... well, let's just say I FEEL cold and uncaring. Not that I AM cold and uncaring. This just triggers so much pain for people who have been on the receiving end of similar situations. I care about them. And believe it or not, I care about writer, every bit as much as you think you do.

There are better ways to deal with this. Ways that cause recovery rather than more pain.


Cafe Plan B link http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2182650&page=1

The ? that made recovery possible: "Which lovebuster do I do the most that hurts the worst"?

The statement that signaled my personal recovery and the turning point in our marriage recovery: "I don't need to be married that badly!"

If you're interested in saving your relationship, you'll work on it when it's convenient. If you're committed, you'll accept no excuses.
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KaylaAndy,

I feel I owe you an apology - this one is on me in terms of shooting from the hip! I didn't go back far enough to realize that your post must have been an edit of one of the moderator's comments - *******EDIT*****

Have faced the same as you have with my wife, so I understand your side completely. Also, used to work crisis intervention so someone with a suicidal expression or feeling to be taken seriously.

Ms. Writer I sincerely hope that you are feeling much less stressed and troubled now. Take good care...

Tom




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Ms. Writer,

Just conserned. You need not reply unless you wish to. You must know that your friends here will have open arms for you when it is your time to participate again.

Tom


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Hi Tom.

I'm still around, checking the boards sometimes.

Right now, I'm busy getting my son going on his new independent study program and helping him prepare for the high school exit exam, which he's taking tomorrow and the next day.


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Well, I just got a notice of sale taped to my front door, even though the bank is supposed to working with us on a refinance. It says my house is going to be sold at auction on March 8. Not sure what to do now.


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