Since you are learning things from me, did you pick out a colour for your toenails yet? Are you finger nails painted too? I don't like to do them in the same colour, I find it too boring.

And we DID get our snow day. That snow is so HEAVY too. It was really hard to shovel and it seems that my wish for the magical shovelling fairy hasn't been granted. BUT they actually plowed the street, which means there is MORE HEAVY snow on my sidewalk. Maybe it's all a dream and I am living in SoCal or something. HAHAHAHA okay, maybe not. Besides, I don't even know WHERE SoCal IS.

I'm guessing that your toenails aren't the same color as your fingernails and not that you have ten different colors on your hands. That would definitely NOT be boring.

I'm still looking for the housecleaning fairy--she's a no-show around here. And I don't even have a snow shovel--I just sweep it away with a push broom.

SoCal is southern California--LA and San Diego and places like that. Not that I've ever been there--it's a long way from the southern US. And now I'm wondering if the folks from Sacramento are from NoCal....

Oh, before I take Mom to the grocery--I have some rose nail polish. I hope that's good enough for me and the good Lord. No one else will see them.

Nope, not 10 different colours, that's something I did when I was younger but us grownups need to appear more dignified. Silver on the toes with red or blue or purple on my fingers depending on the mood.

Rose nail polish will do just fine. Remember, you said you would do it tomorrow.

H&G,
Its
Norcal

HAHAHA I figured that NoCal was wrong, because that's where the rest of us live.

Thanks, reading. I learned something new today.

Is there a middle California? TN is divided into West TN, East TN, and Middle TN. I live in Middle TN.

LOL, Scottie--It's true. Everyone else lives in NoCal.

Central Cal

Mostly the regions are referred to as SoCal and NorCal though......

In limey land we call em knickers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So a you feeling a little better than a week ago Hope??

I'm feeling much better, in all ways. I'm taking care of me and I'll soon put polish on my toenails so Scottie doesn't come way south and do it herself.

Harmony, I've been reading your thread, but haven't had time to reply. I wish my Plan B had worked to the point that my WH would come to my house, sober or drunk, to talk to me. I understand your POV, but for some of us that would be a dream come true. Take your time and think, think, think before you act. Love you!

Thanks, reading!

I am so pleased you are starting to feel a little better Hope. It makes me happy as I know how awful it feels to be in 'that place'. Promise me that you will make 'self care' a core boundary for you. That way each week you will start to feel an improvement. Only you can create that change in feeling.



I know how you feel, I remember the early days here when WH did not want to know me and I would read other threads where WH would want to make contact and think, if only!

Its just so strange that when I feel soo much better and actually back to my old self, that he all of a sudden wants to know again! I think they have a sixth sense. I also think its true that when they know that you are doing just fine without them, and are happy and moving on that they do a 360.

So there you go.

Your right I need to think before I act.

But Harmony, your old self is who he fell in love with in the first place.

You wrote on my thread not to mess with me..well waaaaay back(20+years I'm talking)I was no one's doormat. I don't know what happened, I don't think any of us on this board do. We live and we 'feel' the same, but when something tragic happens (like a death or A) it jumpstarts our soul. We wake up. OH MY GOSH! THIS ISN'T ME...WHERE AM I?

Hope, find yourself...your in there...take care of yourself, like Harmony said.

Hi there Hope - Where are youuuuuuuu? Waiting for answers to my questions. Damn I am so impatient.



Slight T/J going on....

Mitzie - you are joining me right up where Plan B should be, finding yourself again, gaining your self-respect and loving yourself!!!

Hope is working towards joining us in our recovery .......

Quote of the Day for Hope:

Johnny Cash: Aw, June, love's more important than the tour.
June Carter: Is that right?
Johnny Cash: Yes, it is.
June Carter: Well, then start loving yourself, so we can go back to work.

Get to work Hope.

Hi, Harmony and Mitzie. I'm around, just had a busy night last night. My DD needed me, in my full capacity as her mom. Then I spoke with my sister, who has become a life coach for me. She's a Buddhist and spoke to me for some time about right actions and intentions.

WH came by to take DS to dinner and I stayed dark.

Unfortunately, toenails didn't get polished. I will try to do that tonight.

Interesting religion: Buddhism. I took a history of religion class(I think that's what it was called)and we touched upon it(Buddhism). What I got out of class, and this seems to be true of ALL religions, is that before we can know life we must first know self, especially true in Buddhist teaching. I'm sure your sister gave you great advice,most sisters do, as they know us like no other

You paint those toenails girl! Feel good about yourself everytime you look at those tootsies

My feel good therapy is perfume. Expensive perfume, unfortunatly. But I'll tell ya, nothing lifts my spirits higher than spritzin' on some 'parfum d'jour' after my morning shower. I haven't walked through a Macy's, Nordstoms, Sephora without walking out with a bottle of something. I was going to throw WH's favorite away, but I tucked it back of my 'unmentionables' drawer...just for 'someday'.

Good you stayed dark when WH stopped by.

You should go buy yourself some perfume, something cheap maybe, something you KNOW he won't like, something sooooo NOT you and next time he's expected over to pick up DS, spray it ALL around the house.

It'll drive him crazy wondering WHY and WHO your wearing it for.

Of course it's childish and you'll have to air your house out after he leaves,(even in single digit weather) but c'mon, a girl can have a LITTLE fun can't she??

Not to sound too sensitive but you know this was an affairage right? I am sensitive to these "relationships" as a BS. I have figured out that if I stopped watching TV and movies because someone had an affair, or if I stopped listening to musicians who had affairs, I would probably watch and read almost NOTHING.

Hope, I am waiting for those toes to be painted

Here's a Wikipedia page about Johnny's first wife
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vivian_Liberto

Scotty, I understand how you feel about affairages--I happened to have liked Angelina and Brad, but now, not so much. I'm from TN and there are some songs by Johnny Cash that make me get a catch in my throat, but I don't like what he and June Carter did.

Reading, did you catch the last line of your link? John Carter Cash, speaking of the harsh portrayal of Johnny's first wife in the movie about Johnny and June Carter, said the point of the movie was to portray their "romance". Yuck. Affairs are not romances.

There's lots of folks that now make me squeamish. Some I can watch, some I cannot. I used to really enjoy watching Tiger Woods play golf, but now I can't stand him.

Oh, BTW--Scotty, Harmony, and anyone else interested: MY FEET ARE COLD! My toenails are polished, but MY FEET ARE COLD. I hate having cold feet. Of course, my toenails do look nice.

WOOOHOOOO Toenails are ROSY.

I liked Angelina BEFORE she became Brad's OW. Now, I DON'T LIKE THEM ONE BIT. They used to say that they didn't have an affair, then Angelina told someone during an interview that not all children have a movie where their parents fell in love. That was Mr and Mrs Smith. She's just a HORRIBLE human being and I believe that she does those "good things" to 1.get over her guilt, and 2.to try to make people forget what she did. I'm not forgetting.

I can't watch Frasier anymore because of that TURD Kelsey Grammer. I don't watch David Letterman anymore either. JLo, TURD. Julia Roberts, TURDx2. And when I heard that it was possible that Sandra Bullock and Ryan Reynolds were dating, I was gonna get REALLY angry. I would have actually written to Sandra and told her about my disgust. I don't watch golf so I didn't have a problem not liking Tiger

Feet still cold?