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It seemed like it was working. My husband actually seemed to be in a better mood. He was lighthearted, came over to see the kids willingly. I let him stay in the house when I was gone and later found some web addresses he had visited - one being for an airline. He dismissed my questions, saying he was just looking. Well two weeks later he now says he is leaving again to visit the OW. This is the 3rd time he has done this. Do I keep taking this? I keep feeling hope and then SLAM!
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Kate<P>I do not know anything about your situation. I can give you encouragement and support to hang in there. Remember its a roller coaster ride. Be sure and hang on tight. Hopefully, you can keep your sanity during the ride. Focus on yourself, and feeling good about who you are. This is a great opportunity for growth and learning. During difficult times, we learn and grow the most. You will get through this, and be a stronger, wisor, and better person by going through this experience.<P>Remember, your not alone. There are many people here that share your frusration, because they have or are experiencing the same thing.<P>Keep with the hope and faith, and be strong for your children. They need your strength and stability during this time of chaos.<P>Are prayers are with you.
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Kate-<P>I going to guess so correct me if I'm wrong. Your H has moved out so you are in plan "B"?<P>Are you both going to counseling? Did you try and completely go through with Plan "A"?<P>In the meantime...you were not clear if he feels or has said to you that he wants to work on on trying to find the road back to your relationship. Did you feel that overall things in your marriage were good? Good from your perspective? Did you feel your husband felt your marriage good from his perspective?<P>Sorry for asking more than giving you my thoughts but it is too difficult to guess the situation.<P>mr r
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I'm trying to be in Plan A. He has moved out and refuses to be in counseling. I am trying to keep everything as normal as possible with my children, although their dad has quit his job and is following the OW around like a puppy totally ignoring his children and responsibilities.<P>It's just getting hard to be nice when I keep getting kicked in the teeth. Whine, Whine, Whine......
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here we are again.... My H just took off to the OW...... I can just say, I understand how you are feeling, I have NO CLUE about our H's at all?<P>Do you get the feelings at times that H is going to work on your relationship, just to drop you like a hot potatoe? I can only pray for you and remind you that YOU cannot change your H its up to him....<P>Strength and mercy be with you...<P>cozy
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