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For me, appliances would never be an acceptable gift.  OK, that proves how different women are. I just got a fabulous coffee maker (auto-program, water filter, the works) for my birthday from the guy I'm dating and I consider it to be one of the best gifts I ever got! Every morning when I wake up I smell the freshly brewed coffee and think of him. I feel he put a lot of thought into the gift because I'd been wanting one like it and it's something I use every single day. from my HUSBAND I love getting appliances as a thoughtful gift. In other words, he knows me well and knows how much my coffee pot means to me. If I was dating a man, I would be insulted by an appliance as a gift. Flowers are always a welcome gift. Not roses unless you are wanting to imply romance to this woman. Best flowers ever..from a boyfriend that stopped at a corner store and bought me a bunch of daisy's. Very sweet and not overly romantic.
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CARLOS' GUIDE TO UNDERSTANDING WOMEN -
WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS WHEN SHE SAYS:
"FINE": This is the word women use to end an argument when they feel they are right and you need to shut up. Never use "fine" to describe how a woman looks. This will cause you to have one of "those" arguments.
"FIVE MINUTES": This is half an hour. It is equivalent to the five minutes that your football game is going to last before you pay attention to her again, so it's usually an even trade.
"NOTHING": This means "something" and you should be on your toes. "Nothing" is usually used to describe the feeling a woman has of wanting to turn you inside out, upside down, and backwards. "Nothing" usually signifies an argument that will last "Five Minutes" and will end with the word "Fine".
"GO AHEAD" (With Raised Eyebrows): This is a dare. One that will result in a woman getting upset over "Nothing" and will end with the word "Fine".
"GO AHEAD" (Normal Eyebrows): This means "I give up" or "do what you want because I don't care". You will get a "Raised Eyebrow Go Ahead" in just a few minutes, followed by "Nothing" and "Fine", and she will talk to you in about "Five Minutes" when she cools off. OMG, that was hilarious! And true! Hahaha....
D-yr fall 06-fall 07 Separated 10/2010 Him-several affairs, last one 3/2011 Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012 Formerly "Mopey". http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2013149&page=1After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
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Tabby,
That was great!!
I wouldn't want an expensive gift, I would be afraid the person was trying to make me beholden to him. But something thoughtful, once in a while, that shows they pay attention to the little things, that is nice. I wouldn't want a continual barrage of gifts though. But I've been on my own for so long that I appreciate anything anyone does for me...THAT means a lot to me...someone who lifts the propane tank into my truck so I can get it filled. Someone who starts the wood splitter for me so I can operate it. THOSE things mean a lot. But those things wouldn't be from someone who wanted a date, those would be from a friend...and in my way of thinking, a friend is the best place to start!
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