She suspected for a long time about this and decided to check her car when I was sleeping. I took her car (which is in my name)next day to go to work and went to check on the GPS and it was gone!. She acted as nothing had happened. I was the one upset, I appologized and I told her to return it back to me so I could installed back if she wanted me to ever trust he again. I was suspecting she was stopping at different payphones for not reason. I wanted to catch her doing it since she doesn't admit. Well everything went a little unconfortable for 2 days. Now we are back on track.

She has not returned the GPS (Boost mobile). I asked her today in a nicely voice to give it back to me and install it in the car. I told her this will bring us peace of mind and harmony to our life, only will use it for 2 months. She's thinking about it.

I don't understand the point of asking your (F?)WW for permission to GPS her. As for her keeping hold of the GPS until she feels like giving it back to you - well, it is simply silly for you to put up with that.

What do you mean "I was suspecting that she was stopping at different payphones for no reason"? Surely you believe that the reason was so that she can phone OM without leaving a trace!

Are you serious about finding out what she's up to so that you know the footing on which you marriage stands? Are you willing to let her contact OM while married to you?

If you are serious about the boundary of not being married to someone who is involved with someone else, then put a new GPS on her car right now and DO NOT TELL HER. It's called "spying" because you do not let your spouse know you are doing it.

By "thinking" about the GPS, your WW is trying to control you- to see if she can still "call the shots".

Why would you apologise?
Is she on board with MB?

Does she read this site? (sometimes we advise BS not to inform active WS about this site)

Actually, her finding the FIRST- GPS may be a good thing. It may lull her into a sense of security about her control over this issue.

Me? I would HIDE another- try the spare tire well or having a containter welded onto the underside of her car... while continuing to ask for the old one back so you can "start" to monitor her.

If she cries about "privacy" and "trust issues"- you are still dealing with an active WS.

P.S. if you believe she is reading this thread and you want me to edit out the above "tip" I will... just say so.

This is not a game, it is your M. To rebuild trust and recover- she needs to be honest.

Actually, your WW shows very little imagination. I would have taken the thing and FED-EX'd it to the General Post Office in Zamboanga, or some-such place.

Or how about secreting it someplace aboard a city bus, garbage truck, or commuter train?

(I need a break - I'm thinking up strategies for WAYWARDS, now!)

barbiecat..."Me? I would HIDE another- try the spare tire well or having a containter welded onto the underside of her car... while continuing to ask for the old one back so you can "start" to monitor her."

Thanks guys. Good advise!!!
SugarCane, the reason I decided to install the "instant gps" was because the other failed (Trackstick II) and in addition the info is not instantaneous. The 1st week of December 2010 (3 months ago) the info from the Trackstick shows very clearly that for the first time in 2 years she actually stopped in front of a payphone in a convinience store for 10 minutes. When she was sleeping I counted her change, there was a 25cents (quarter) missing from her wallet. Yes, I'm serious about my marriage, even counting her change. I decided to install the Boost mobile. The day before Xmas she stopped in front of another payphone, she went to a TJMaxx and the to the OM's previous work place (for what? to drop a Xmas present? Does she has a messenger who is a friend of the OM to deliver the gift to the OM? I confronted her and guess what, she collapsed, broke in tears, her legs collapse, I had to carry her to the sofa and gave her some drinks and make her smell some alcohol to revive her. She said that I didn't want to live in peace, I responded to her that the way she is trying to live in peace is not the right way. Anyway, at Xmas day I went to the OM's house and knocked at their door (the OM wasn't there) and I informed the OMW about what was going on. She said thanks for the information. By now, I haven't heard anything from her (the OMW).

I'm follow my intuition (after 30 happy years married to this woman), I know she is calling the OM. At least once every 2 months. Last friday she did it again, another quarter missing. She is not using currency, she has a credit card that i gave her.

Since she found the GPS I decided it to give a shot and confront her with her whereabouts (even the ones I discovered 2 years ago when I received the ILYBINILWY speech). She denied all of them, even with information so accurate, God only knows what is in her mind. She is in a MLC for sure. **edit**

And finally, she is not reading this website.

AGAIN, Thanks for your advise!!!!