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Official song of waywards: It Wasn't Me'
(Yo', man) Yo' (Open up, man) What do you want, man? (My girl just caught me) You let her catch you? (I don't know how I let this happen) With who? (The girl next door, you know) Man (I don't know what to do) Say it wasn't you (Alright)
Honey came in and she caught me red-handed Creeping with the girl next door Picture this, we were both butt naked, banging on the bathroom floor
How could I forget that I had Given her an extra key All this time she was standing there She never took her eyes off me
How you can grant the woman access to your villa Trespasser and a witness while you cling to your pillow You better watch your back before she turn into a killer Best for you and the situation not to call the [censored] To be a true player you have to know how to play If she say a night, convince her say a day Never admit to a word when she say makes a claim And you tell her baby no way
But she caught me on the counter (It wasn't me) Saw me bangin' on the sofa (It wasn't me) I even had her in the shower (It wasn't me) She even caught me on camera (It wasn't me)
She saw the marks on my shoulder (It wasn't me) Heard the words that I told her (It wasn't me) Heard the scream geting louder (It wasn't me) She stayed until it was over
Honey came in and she caught me red-handed Creeping with the girl next door Picture this, we were both butt naked, banging on the bathroom floor
I had tried to keep her From what she was about to see Why should she believe me When I told her it wasn't me
Make sure she knows it's not you and lead her on the right prefix Whenever you should see her make the giggolo flex As funny as it be by you, it not that complex Seeing is believing so you better change your specs You know she not gonna be worrying bout things from the past Hardly recollecting and then she'll go to noontime mass Wait for your answer: go over there But if she pack a gun you know you better run fast
But she caught me on the counter (It wasn't me) Saw me bangin' on the sofa (It wasn't me) I even had her in the shower (It wasn't me) She even caught me on camera (It wasn't me)
She saw the marks on my shoulder (It wasn't me) Heard the words that I told her (It wasn't me) Heard the scream get louder (It wasn't me) She stayed until it was over
Honey came in and she caught me red-handed Creeping with the girl next door Picture this, we were both butt naked, banging on the bathroom floor
How could I forget that I had Given her an extra key All this time she was standing there She never took her eyes off me
Gonna tell her that I'm sorry For the pain that I've caused I've been listening to your reasoning It makes no sense at all We should tell her that I'm sorry For the pain that I've caused You may think that you're a player But you're completely lost That's why I sing
Honey came in and she caught me red-handed Creeping with the girl next door Picture this, we were both butt naked, banging on the bathroom floor
How could I forget that I had Given her an extra key All this time she was standing there She never took her eyes off me
Me: FBH (2010) and FWH (1996): 40 Her: FWW and FBW: 40
2011: In recovery
A's are merely chocolate-covered cancer lollipops.
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It is amazing how they keep up the lies NO ONE BELIEVES THEM...
Melody-I have gone to a few Alanon meetings, did not find them that helpful but I will keep trying them. Individual counseling too.
What really is getting to me now is really seems not to give a crap about his kids. He has been out of the house for 4 weeks and has seen his kids for just over 2 hours-WTF??????? I really want to ream him a new one. I just keep working on an e-mail I have not sent to him but its therapeutic just writing it.
Should I expose to OW's parents?
Me: 41 yo H: 45 yo Married 13 years, together 18 years DD: 8 yo DS: 5 yo Dday #1: 5/2/09, Dday #2: 2/17/11
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I am not doing well with Plan B. NC is hard for me though I know its the right thing to do. I broke NC on Monday when 2 letters arrived at my house from OW addressed to BS when he was at rehab a couple of weeks ago. BS left rehab after 3 days so the letters arrived after he left and they sent them to his home address. It broke my heart reading her words of encouragement to him, telling how wonderful he is, and how much she misses him. There was such a sense of entitlement in her writings-WTF-he has a family that loves him and misses him terribly.
Anyway, when I read those I called him and read them to him. His response, "she's just being nice, she its not sexual" Maybe its not sexual, but its much worse. I don't know how I can possibly get past this if he ever wakes up from his fog. How is it even possible to piece our M back together? I know 20 years of history and 2 kids are worth it but he isn't giving me anything to work with or hope for.
Sorry for the rant, but its been a tough few days. I still have not wrote to OW's parents. Can someone direct me to where the sample letter is?
Me: 41 yo H: 45 yo Married 13 years, together 18 years DD: 8 yo DS: 5 yo Dday #1: 5/2/09, Dday #2: 2/17/11
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