Our world is twisted and backward, armymama. remember the WW who sued her BH for checking her email to confirm an A? SHE cheated and HE got prosecuted? Stupid.

My newest rant - feeling like I have just been trapped inside the movie Pee Wee's Big Adventure

"I know you are but what am I?"

How so?

TW;

I call it boomerang fingerpointing. Your could get whiplash from watching the comments get flipped, turned around and blasted back with Superhuman speed.

Some IC suggest this as a form of "therapy".

Answer a question with a question.
"Don't deny or agree, send it back C.O.D!"(Hey, I made a funny!!!)
If you do this long enough, surely your partner will give up.

Is it kind of like....

When my WH would say to me "Why do you have to make everything about you...?"

Then I would say back "I know, Why DO you make everything about you?"

He would just get confused and then forget his point...

...Infinity...

I don't make Monkeys I train em!

AAGGGHHHHHH!!!!!

If you are still married......DO NOT DATE! Dating while married is CHEATING....even if your spouse "cheated first!"

In the words of teens everywhere: O. M. G.

Grrr.

Rarely posting.

Barely posting.

Not contributing. Not helping.

Ever.

As is your right. You have every right to come in, get what you need and leave.

But you don't quite do that...

Having benefitted, when you were in crisis, from the help of volunteer posters, you come back to lob a criticism every once in a while of the way others give that help...the help that saved you.

That is insulting.

Grrr.

Sugar!! You stole my rant!

ITA SC. It seems people will not give up and admit they are fallible, so they attack others to point out details, so they won't have to look at themselves.

The punishment they inflict is mostly felt by them though, as in some people would rather live in that comfortable and can I say lazy world of believing they are ussually right, and the world is wrong. Thier ego would rather believe they were dealt a bad hand, when all along they were being taught and they were bad students.

They live with themselves, I guess as long as I don't have to, I can open my ears and hear from people with the right intentions, and hopefully also descern thier heart, which is what I care about.

Its Par for the course though, that it takes so much time for someone to change what they attack the very people and things that accually helped them in thier time of need, because they cannot see the spitit behind the help, and they want to restored to that "numb-minded" status they once enjoyed in ignorance.

Part of growing I guess.

Having been beat up too many times to count IRL for saying things wrong, I understand why people get alarmed here.

But really - having read the offending thread and read the early apology, And the beatings continue? Really? Really?

Come on people! I've read criticisms about posts with no apology in them that were way more worth getting offended at than the one you're climbing all over.

I guess when people have been swung at by prideful and arrogant waywards about their posting style, they see an attack when it was just a word.

Just a word, people.

Now, I can't go have the one man who needs to read that original post more than any conflict avoiding betrayed husband on this board because of all the detracting offended posts over a single word.

Me thinks the word bitter has been used as an abuse word at survivor betrayed spouses more often than we can count. And because of that, there seems to be an extraordinary need to snuff out any person who doesn't mind their words very carefully. Even after they apologize.

I think that's what gets my rant a going. HE APOLOGIZED. And the beatings continue. Now he's getting defensive. Can you blame him?

Let's tone this down and get back to business! If you have a complaint about a poster, click the notify button and let the moderators handle it. Otherwise, let this drop.

Thank you all.

I have no idea what is going on......but maybe I shouldn't rant here. It was actually a rant about how I am realizing MB is probably the only sane place on the internet. But I have used the work bitter before, and I am a FWW, so maybe I am one who has been insulting. So I'll just refrain......and sya thank you for the help and I realize now why it's to good to.....have have consistent principles.

Just sat down to waste time w/ the TV, stumbled across TLC's "Say Yes to the Dress" - a show about Kleinfeld's bridal salon in NYC and the brides who come there for their gowns.

What automatically comes to mind when they introduce one client w/ an imminent but "may have to be pushed back" wedding date...due to her waiting on the divorce papers from her previous marriage to come through?! GAH!!

It didn't stop there. She glossed over the "married my high school sweetheart and it didn't really work out," and was beaming over the fact she had "gotten a second chance" and "fallen in love with a wonderful (new) man" AND HAS AN 8-MONTH-OLD SON WITH HER NOW-FIANCE.

Ugh. I suppose I shouldn't be surprised that infidelity would inevitably taint a wedding-related show, but for it to be so happily put out there by the wayward bride-to-be....ugh.

Sounds like another one "running on empty" doesn't it. Yeah a Cinderella show would have those kinds of storys, and that they are unaware of how stupid they sound.

Wonder what the Prince says about it...

My rant is about the use of the term "vet" on this board. It is typically used to refer to members who have been here for a long time as if they have some sort of elevated status and special knowledge.

Just because a person has been here for awhile means very little. I know people who have been members for 10 years who don't even OWN a single Marriage Builders book and wouldn't know a POJA from a ham sandwich. But, I know people who have been on this board for 6 months, who know this program inside and out. Those are the true vets, IMO!!

Hmm, maybe we should implement a new vet application process... We would, of course, subdivide into Aquanet-assisted and/or stand-alone applications.

Okay, then we should add a definition list to the top of the forums. I'll start it:

Vets: members who have been here a long time and who may or may not know MB principles or even own an MB book.

SVets (sneaky vets): members who have been here a long time but who now only appear under false pretenses to (a) mine for email addresses or (b) to try and stir up trouble.

KVet (knowledgeable vets): members who have been here a long time, know the difference between a ham sandwich and a POJA, and post as much as they can to help.

PMBVets (practicing MB vets): members who have been here a long time and who actually practice MB principles, and post as much as they can to help.

U&CMVPVets (Up and coming MVPVets): members who have not been members for a long time, but who are striving to learn about and practice MB principles, and who selflessly post to those who need help.

MVPVets (most valuable player vets): members who have been here a long time, are extremely knowledgeable about and practice MB principles, and selflessly continue to post to those who need help.

That is great!!