Y'all, I have an internet acquaintance who is having problems in her marriage.

Based on what she has said, I'm 95% sure that her husband is having an affair. He has said he no longer loves her, is no longer attracted to her, sleeps on the sofa, and has re-written marital history saying that their marriage has always been bad and they should never have married. She was shocked because until recently she would have said they had a good marriage. You all know the drill.

Anyway, she is a very busy mom of two, homeschooling the children during the day and working full-time in the evenings. I've convinced her that she needs to snoop to find out what is going on, but she feels that she does not have time to read everything on this website to figure out what to do next.

I am hoping that she will join the forum, but she has not so far.

Could y'all point me to the very best, most concise articles and/or threads about snooping on a WS? Something that will help her figure out why it's okay and how to do it?

It's okay to snoop in this kind of situation, this is her life, she should install at key logger on the comp, get a voice activated recorder in his car, check the phone records see if there is a number he talks to a lot........hire a PI........get her info and then have her come here to put a good plan together if she indeed wants to save her marriage.........
Tell her to stay quiet for now...........she needs to get proof first.........

Thanks. I told her to get a keylogger and gave her the link to the thread about them over in Operation Investigate. I told her to check cell phone records. And, I told her to get a VAR and that some people get a second cell phone for the affair. I also emphasized the need to keep quiet for now.

She said that she would have some time today to start checking things out.

just be there for her, this will be a difficult time as we all know........
just listen and try to get her to stick to a plan...........