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Unfettered - I admire you for your clear head in such a messy situation. Not many men could not be blinded by emotions in such difficult cases.


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Originally Posted by recon6mo
Unfettered - I admire you for your clear head in such a messy situation. Not many men could not be blinded by emotions in such difficult cases.

Tell me about it. Its 4am and I am still awake trying to rationalize why it could still work. I don't think I'll get a wink of sleep tonight. If you had asked me two days ago, I would have said that we would be engaged in another 3 months.

If there is one thing I learned from my ex-wife is that Im a damned good man and there are plenty of women out there to pick from. Love is not some mystical phenomena that comes out of nowhere, but the result of actions taken to meet another's needs while they meet yours. It may hurt like hell to walk away from her, but that pain is temporary and she is not the last woman that I will love.


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So I requested an appointment with the Harleys since I won't actually see my gf for a week or so. I'd like to actually talk about this with someone impartial before I can broach the subject with my gf. I did sleep a lot better last night though.


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Originally Posted by Unfettered
I can no longer see how I could have the relationship I want with this person. Oh well, that sucks. She has been amazing with me in this relationship, but I cannot overlook the alter ego. There are plenty of other fish in the sea. I'll still talk to her about it, but it will be as part of a breakup conversation.

That is the smartest decision, unfettered. You don't even want to set yourself up for repeat.


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Originally Posted by Unfettered
So I requested an appointment with the Harleys since I won't actually see my gf for a week or so.

Send Dr Harley an email and he will talk to you for free on the radio. Click on the radio link above.


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Thanks Melody. I'll check that out when I get home.


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