I just spent the last hour writing a letter to the OW and her H telling them how I feel about everything they had done and all the lies they told when they exposed the A. I want to put it in the form of an email but I'm not sure if it's a good idea to send it or not. There are so many things I want to say to them and I guess I feel like I will have some kind of closure if I send the email. What is everyone's thoughts on this?

Do not send it.

It won't do any good for you or educate them.

I wouldn't, let them wallow in their own guilt..........they know what they did and they know how awful they are as human beings..........
be the better person, they don't care .........why do this to yourself......I know you want to but it doesn't change anything..............let it go

Good that you wrote the letter, gets it all out.


Now burn it, along with anything that reminds you of her and watch as you release it all into running water.

Really hun, sending it would be a bad idea, releasing it, helps with releasing the emotions that go with the whole sordid nastiness.

Don't stoop to their level, be a goddess!!

Yep. ITA. Do not send that letter. It will avail you nothing. You are trying to convince someone of something they already know. They chose to twist the truth for their own reasons, and all the letter-writing in the world won't change them.

Burn the letter. You are better than that.

TGW,

She lied to your face.

She had an affair with your husband.

She held your hand, while shtooping your husband, while lying to you, while she stood at her father's side as he lay dying.

She lied to her husband's face.

She lied to everyone else about the affair for years.

She lied to everyone else about details of the affair.

She lied to your husband during the affair.

She lied to everyone before, during, and after the affair.



The letter you wrote will have no effect on this woman. She does not care one whit about anyone but herself. She would lie about what was in the letter, about who wrote it, about what it meant, and twist every meaning in it until it meant nothing but love, butterflies, and pretty flowers about HER.


Do not waste one more single moment of your life thinking about this woman.


Your husband's affair was NOT about this other woman. It was about HIMSELF.


"She" is not that special. Do not allow yourself to believe that she is for another second. She is a self-absorbed liar. Nothing more.

When and if you need to completely rid your life of her image, look at my forgiveness thread. Weigh anchor. Because she is nothing but a huge ugly weight that will keep you anchored right to her if you let her.


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