last weekend H said he went to san diego, and that his phone did not work, but that he thought he was leaving me messages all weekend, and that i was just not calling him back. (his phone was never answered when i called) he promised to be home early sunday morning. <BR>i found a charge that he made for a hotel, that matched what he said he paid, and that the company reimbursed him. well, the charge was in mendocino, which is very, very far from sandiego (like, waaaay north). i called the hotel to verify the charge, and ask if he was registered. well, he wasn't, but OW was. hmmmm. <BR>H has not brought home the plane ticket to prove that he went south.<BR>he came home late sunday, and, long story short, says OW called him in a panic to pay for the hotel, as she had no way of doing so, and that he had to wait at his office for her to drive through and give him the check on sunday.<BR>if he can't produce the ticket for me tonight, it's over, kids.<BR>last night, he was very sweet, and told me how much he cared about me...yadda yadda. what it sounds like to me is, "i've been good, i deserve to see my girlfriend!"<P>apparently he thinks i fell off the last turnip truck? i don't need this in my life...

lwb,<P>This makes me angry. You are at home with a new baby and a 2yr old. Your H is off romping around the country w/ another women.<BR>I am sorry, but you DON'T need this in your life.<BR>I don't have any advice for you. This makes me mad for you.<BR>I am so sorry. Your H is a fool.<P><BR>Cheryl

thanks, ceecee. did i mention the 2yo had raging diarrhea, so i was stuck at home the whole time, too? ugh.<BR>im mad at your H, too.

lwb,<P>My 2yo gets that way everytime she has to see her daddy. Makes me nuts.<BR>I'm sorry that you are dealing w/this. You certainly don't need this, esp. now w/ the new baby.<BR>I'm sending you prayers. You are a brave woman!!!!<P>Cheryl

LWB,<P>UGGGGHHHH>>>>>> <P>we need 2x4 therapy for your husband....<P>(((hugs)))

Hi lwb, <BR>I think given the circumstances lately, he needs a frying pan upside the head! Maybe I am being to hard on him, but you two have been thru a lot, and surely he must understand that you do not trust him? <BR>Grrrrr, cl

THAT MAKES ME SO ANGRY!!! I can't believe he is continuing to be deceitful. Why? I just don't understand why people do this (my husband included). Please tell us there is a simple explanation for what went on last weekend...<P>p.s. Why is he still having contact with OW??

LWB,<P>Well, I sure can symjpathize witht he lying H bit! It just STINKS!!! To me, the WORST part of all of this is the LIES< SECRECY AND DECEIT! Of course, on the flip, my H now has a new tactic - letting me KNOW of his cheating ways! That is just as BAD, maybe worse.<P>I am thinking of you today. I wonder why we are going through this awful time in our lives. I told a cousin who called me this morning this:<P>Sh^t happens to everybody in their lives. What is important is this: how I weather the cr@p and find ways to persevere and learn and grow. I can not change the outcome of my H continuing his affair. I can not chnage the outcome if he decides to get the D he told me he wants. But, I CAN decide that this experience WILL NOT DEFEAT ME. I have been what I thought was a loving wife and a good partner, but obviously, I could improve some. So, I will take this experience and better myself from it. In that way, I can emerge VICTORIOUS!!!<P>{{{{{{{{{{LWB}}}}}}}}}}}<P>Thinking the good thoughts of you today and wishing a better day than yesterday!<P>Roll Me Away

everyone, thanks for the sympathy.<BR>he has not provided any paper proof to show where he really was, and wants me to wait for the expenses reimbursement from his company, to show he was in sandiego.<BR>im just sick about all of it. he's home all weekend, treating me like a queen and all over me (why does this happen as soon as i threaten to leave?)<BR>now im really confused....<BR>ugh.<BR>more later....