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Gone plan b. Tired of the lies, her working the angles (she tosses me a "bone" when it is in her best interest) no fog lifting, just manipulation. If i just take her back after affair dies, OM leaving soon, she has no reason to change, and she will be in the situation many more time for next 5 years min. She is on deployment.
Situation is more complicated then typical. When she comes back she moves to next base. Next base very bad for my future career.
Figure i have 2 options.
A. File.Stay here. My state has "at fault" which should give me better financial future for the kids. And In better place to provide for them.
B wait and see what she does. Which could be...
B.1 She invites us to base with her. Huge risk for the kids and I
B.2 She makes good on threats and files in her state. No fault, "drive through" divorces.
Me: BH
Her: ongoing PA/EA
Married 8 years
3 children 2,6,7.
Plan B, maybe D.
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Joined: May 2009
Posts: 2,708
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File.
Gets my vote.....and stay in plan B unless/until she ends affair and shows she is capable of doing the difficult work of recovery and rebuilding. If she ever is.
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Joined: Dec 2007
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File.
Gets my vote.....and stay in plan B unless/until she ends affair and shows she is capable of doing the difficult work of recovery and rebuilding. If she ever is. You need to protect yourself and your kids. File. There has been recoveries even after the divorce has gone through. But once the legal advantage is gone it can never be reclaimed.
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