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Originally Posted by MikeStillSmiling
I remember way back when, say late May, a young, naive distressed poster came on here and thought he knew all the answers. He'd fight and argue that his deal was unique. Several one-twos and uppercuts later, he towed the line and life is real good a few months later.

You are awesome!! grin


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Originally Posted by MikeStillSmiling
I tired to give him a head start to get onboard with my limited MB skills and he fought all morning.

I remember way back when, say late May, a young, naive distressed poster came on here and thought he knew all the answers. He'd fight and argue that his deal was unique. Several one-twos and uppercuts later, he towed the line and life is real good a few months later.

That guy was me.
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Originally Posted by ConstantProcess
Originally Posted by MikeStillSmiling
I tired to give him a head start to get onboard with my limited MB skills and he fought all morning.

I remember way back when, say late May, a young, naive distressed poster came on here and thought he knew all the answers. He'd fight and argue that his deal was unique. Several one-twos and uppercuts later, he towed the line and life is real good a few months later.

That guy was me.
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Originally Posted by MikeStillSmiling
Truth is I wish I wasnt here.

Don't we all. Don't we all...


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Truth is I wish I wasnt here.

That is not an option given you, MSS. I, for one, am glad you are "here" as you are, rather than "here" as you were.

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Originally Posted by NeverGuessed
Truth is I wish I wasnt here.

That is not an option given you, MSS. I, for one, am glad you are "here" as you are, rather than "here" as you were.

NG, did you see what he did to me?? He is using MY princess name flirt to threaten other posters who don't get in line! rotflmao


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oh wait!! NG used my name in vain too!! sigh


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Originally Posted by MelodyLane
NG, did you see what he did to me?? He is using MY princess name flirt to threaten other posters who don't get in line! rotflmao

Imitation is the most sincere form of flattery Mel. He has shown his hand. You musta left a mark on the side of his head.

"That texas chick sure speaks her mind! I'll show her, all I want is everything back to normal, and she says things have to change! How can I erase the past with her around? How can I regain control of our fast moving train to nowhwere? I was happy in my ignorance, Ill show her Ill turn it around!"

Yeah we get it, you musta had an effect somewhere

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They are pimping me out!! Using me as a threat! "if you don't straighten up fast, we will send Mel over here!!" naughty


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Heya, Dem guys gots no class Hah? Fugetabodit!

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"if you don't straighten up fast, we will send Mel over here!!"

Sorry, Ma'am, no apologies here! One uses the best tool for the job at hand!

(Of course, if you ever feel the need to inflict an overly verbose, grammatically tortuous, analogy-riven correspondant on a recalcitrant newby, just threaten them with me!)

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Originally Posted by NeverGuessed
"if you don't straighten up fast, we will send Mel over here!!"

Sorry, Ma'am, no apologies here! One uses the best tool for the job at hand!

(Of course, if you ever feel the need to inflict an overly verbose, grammatically tortuous, analogy-riven correspondant on a recalcitrant newby, just threaten them with me!)

Listen here, boys, I am not your personal baseball bat!! sigh

Mel<----can someone tell me what he just said?? TEEF


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I agree, Mel is a horrible bat...

(It's the thick ankles...)

I had to break the $10 word habit due to my sister's current husband who would stop me with glass eyes and say; "Um, dry waller here, can you speak English?"

No help on translation.


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Originally Posted by HoldHerHand
I agree, Mel is a horrible bat...

(It's the thick ankles...)

shaddup! grumble


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Originally Posted by NeverGuessed
"if you don't straighten up fast, we will send Mel over here!!"

Sorry, Ma'am, no apologies here! One uses the best tool for the job at hand!

(Of course, if you ever feel the need to inflict an overly verbose,(Lots of words of the $10 caliber) grammatically tortuous,(teeters on the edge of proper grammar use, mostly to make a point and make you think outside your box and jumpstart those braincells) analogy-riven correspondant,(uses analogys to explain like situations, almost to a fault, to assist in objective thinking) on a recalcitrant newby( A stubborn and unable to remove thier their head from thier hindquarters or able to listen to anybody elses ideas but thier own), just threaten them with me!)

So how did I do?

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But seriuosly NG, your grasp of the practical and the use of the lauguage in a witty observation is allways welcome and not only promote thinking for me, but lends the charm of a great sense of humor, while still being very sensitive to others.
But Sometimes we just need Mel to shoot em in the rear with that pink 9mm she has.
Yep it take a village, and a watchman,(Ok watchwoman sigh), on the wall gaurding that village

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Hey Hey Joey!!!

Yeah Rocco?

Good to see ya hows the family? Now listen up, we gots this "recalcitrant" newby ova here which don't wanna listen...so like I was thinkin..Maybe you aw-ta..well you know..

Yeah Roc, I get it, you
want me to go get "The Mel" outta the trunk, or the NG? Which one you want?


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I was messing with my cell last night and accidently sent OMW a test message. It was blank as I said it was an accident. These darn new phones have hair triggers when it comes to sending texts and emails. Terrible.

Ive kept my contact with her at a minimum as i want little to do with her.

She quickly repled "everything OK?", I said simply, sorry clicked on send by mistake. After another few minutes, she got back to me "you need to talk?" I ignored, then another few minutes "what's up?" I ignored.

Then this morning, "are you sure everything's OK?". Ignored and deleted.

I cannot be her friend and I know thats what she wants. She has no friends, we were it. I feel sorry for her with her husband still living lies undoubtedly still with very independent actions.

This is a very unstable woman in the first place so finding out her husband was having multiple affairs must have really done a number on her.

I cant help her.

I told her after dday she needs to find someone other than me to commiserate with.

She is not doing well.

My wife knows all about the texts. She was next to me with OMW texted the 3 or 4x last night.

Secretly I give some blame to her as she could have done more to find out what her deviant husband is up to. The affair took place in her home the last 18 months of it. I know, lame. I said its my secret.

My dad said 20 years ago and he was right, men shouldnt be friends with women. Unless theres a relationship potential, no reason for a man and woman to be friends. Our spouses proved that theory right and Im not going to fight a proven theory.

She cant be my friend.

If I felt my wife was prospectively looking to hookup with OM any point after dday, Id be more inclined to keep OMW in my loop, but my wife HATES OM for a million reasons.

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So you need to delete her number from your cell phone. You see that, right? Then you won't have to accidentally have contact.


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Thats what my wife said. I argue that if I do that and she texts or calls, thatd be worse, I wont reconize her number and Id pick up the call. If shes in the cell, I see her name and have the option of ignoring. Without having her saved in the directory, I have no option.

Know what happened?, and Im pretty dumb. I mentioned she texted me about 2 weeks ago about day care and where my wife is working in Sept so she would enroll her kid elsewhere and I kept it to show my wife. I clicked on that conversation and, well, it all happened so fast. Shoulda deleted that convo.

If this is interesting to anyone, let me know.

Slow news night.

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